I recently entered into an arrangement with a man who contacted me through this site, but he had intercourse with me without using protection and without my consent.
Before we started seeing each other, we talked at a café. During that conversation, the man negotiated the amount for using protection, and I agreed to those terms.
We then went to a hotel. During our time together, he said, “I can’t stay hard when I’m wearing a condom,” so I reminded him that he needed to use one. We initially had intercourse with protection.
However, partway through, he said, “See? I’m losing it. I can’t do it with this on,” and removed the condom.
I repeatedly told him, “Please put it back on,” “If you won’t use one, I won’t see you again,” and “Please stop.” But he kept saying, “Other girls from Universe initially said they wanted protection too, but eventually they said they were okay with it without one. I’ve never had an accident before, so it’ll be fine. Women enjoy it more without one anyway. It’s fine, it’s fine.” By then, he had already penetrated me, and he forced me to have unprotected sex.
Since we were alone in a locked room, I was afraid that he might become violent or do something worse, especially with all the recent news about people lashing out. So I didn’t confront him any further.
Afterward, I received the agreed allowance of 5 and we went our separate ways.
〇 My questions:
1. In a situation like this, will the club take any action?
2. Or will they say that, once the introduction has been arranged, it’s a private matter and they won’t get involved?
3. Could this be considered a crime?
I kept the following exchange on LINE, thinking it might serve as evidence:
Me: We had agreed to use protection at first, so I was upset that you had unprotected sex with me partway through without my consent.
Him: I’m sorry. Next time, I’ll follow our original agreement.
He was very easy to talk to at the café, and we had an enjoyable conversation. Since he himself said he would use protection, I trusted him and never imagined he would be this kind of person. I was extremely shocked.
I’m sorry for the long message.
I apologize if this is difficult to understand because my writing is disorganized.
I would appreciate any advice.
Thank you in advance.
👤Asked byGuest👩GenderFemale🎂20s👑Universe female member
A man like that will definitely try to have unprotected sex again by gradually pushing your boundaries.
Then it’ll just be the same cycle of, “I’m sorry.”
The safest option is simply not to see him again. But if you’re serious about making him face a penalty, you’ll have to be prepared to take a firm stance yourself.
Please report him to the club so no one else becomes a victim. As for what happens after that, you’ll have to leave it to the club. They likely have their own company policies regarding how far they can intervene.
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Unfortunately, I think it would take a great deal of resolve to punish that man.
You’re probably better off not expecting much from the club. However, it is actually your responsibility to report what happened to the club. Ask them to terminate his membership.
As Mac-san pointed out, if you seek help from anyone other than a lawyer, there’s a possibility that you could end up being treated as the offender, so be careful.
Even if you go to the police, unless you were raped—which, in my view, is essentially what happened to you—they may not take it seriously. That’s because you received an allowance. The same applies if you try to sue. To the best of my knowledge, your claim probably won’t be accepted unless you gather substantial evidence, and the fact that you received an allowance could actually work against you.
Choosing the right lawyer in the first place is also difficult. If the other party hires a lawyer too, things generally proceed according to the relative strength and connections of the lawyers involved.
That’s why I said you’ll need to be prepared for a difficult fight.
Surely you’re not going to share a bed with that papa again, are you⁉︎
One final aside.
What happens if a customer at a soapland, where condoms are mandatory, tries to proceed without putting one on? Apparently, there are several stages, but in the old days, it supposedly ended with someone associated with the yakuza showing up and beating him badly. That’s only a story from the past, but I suspect things may not have changed much even today.
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Thank you for your question.
Maezawa here as well.
> 1. In a situation like this, would the club take any action?
I think they could at least listen to your concerns, but I’m not sure what exactly you want them to do.
For example, if you want them to tell the man to use a condom from now on, they might be able to pass that message along. However, doing so could mean that he no longer wants to see you, and there is also a possibility that he could hold a grudge against you.
> 2. Or does the club stay out of it after the first meeting, since it becomes a private relationship?
The club will get involved as far as it reasonably can.
For example, if the man hit you, the club could probably force him to leave. However, they are not lawyers, so it would likely be difficult for them to demand compensation from him.
> 3. Isn’t this a crime?
It is the court that determines whether something constitutes a crime. Therefore, it’s difficult for me to say whether this is criminal, but if you believe a crime has been committed, I think you should consult the police or a lawyer.
Both the police and a lawyer should be able to assess whether it could be considered a crime based on past cases and similar circumstances.
That said, the police are busy, so they may not listen as sympathetically as you’d hope. In that case, even if it costs money, I feel it may be better to consult a lawyer.
Personally, I do think it could constitute a crime, but I doubt the man would be prosecuted. So, as Mac suggested, I think it would be better to consult a lawyer and pursue compensation from him.
Even if he isn’t prosecuted, he would still be questioned, which could put pressure on him. He may then want to reach a settlement to avoid prosecution, so pursuing a settlement payment might be the best course of action.
However, if he agrees to use a condom from now on, continuing to see him may ultimately be more beneficial for you. In that case, I think you should record the next meeting so that, even if he removes the condom during the encounter, your direct conversation will remain as evidence.
If he removes it again, he’s the kind of man who can’t really complain if you take legal action against him. I don’t think he deserves any sympathy, so it may be best to stop seeing him and pursue compensation instead.
Incidentally, even when looking for a lawyer, I don’t think things will go smoothly unless you find one who is genuinely supportive of women. The question is how to find that kind of lawyer.
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I think there are quite a few men who want to go without protection.
Breaking a promise afterward makes him an awful person, but if you really didn’t want to, you should have done more than just say so—at least get out of bed. It’s not as though he forced himself on you, right? You were probably hesitating to take a firm stand because you were weighing it against the money.
Instead of coming here afterward to complain, you need to toughen up if you’re going to do this kind of thing.
Even if you report him to the club, I don’t think you’ll gain much beyond having his rating lowered. I’m not familiar with criminal law, but accepting money may work against you.
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What kind of response are you seeking from the club?
As Mr. Mac points out, this may constitute sexual assault, so why not consult a lawyer and try negotiating a settlement?
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You’ve saved the evidence in your LINE messages, so if you consult the police, couldn’t this be treated as rape?
If it were me, I’d consult a lawyer and have them request the male member’s identity from Univa. Then I’d have the lawyer send him a letter saying, “I’m considering filing a criminal complaint,” and demand compensation for emotional distress. Maybe around ¥1 million? Even after paying the legal fees, it seems like you’d still come out ahead.
Be careful—if you negotiate yourself or have a male friend do it for you, he could potentially counter-file a complaint for criminal intimidation. Anyway, you did the right thing by preserving the evidence. Good job, good job. *pat pat*
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