How do men feel when they find out that a woman they trusted and were seeing is still registered with the club, even though they thought she had left?
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Would it change the way they view the relationship or how they treat her?
For example, would they feel disillusioned, thinking, “Was I the only one taking this relationship seriously?” and lose interest?
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I’m not a man, but Ayase Nana♡ will answer too.
The man I had been seeing until recently kept telling me over and over that he wanted me to quit. He would message me on LINE every three hours to check whether I was cheating, and he was starting to seem like a stalker, so I lied and told him I had hidden my profile.
In this case, this man broke Universe’s rules, so he had to be punished. And I made sure he was punished.
What do you think he would feel when he found out I was still registered?
☆ He’d probably get angry and ask why I was still registered. But then—would he be able to accept the fact that men date multiple women?
Of course he wouldn’t. It’s not like I merely overslept… That’s the kind of reaction I mean.
Would this change the way he sees the relationship?
(Thinking things like, “Was I the one getting carried away?” and losing interest, for example.)
☆ Some people do choose to end things. Anyone who goes against Universe’s rules should go use some bottom-of-the-barrel app instead.
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If that were the case, I’d reflect on what I could have done better.
That said, I don’t check whether someone is still registered—or whether an offer from this year was simply hidden rather than the account being closed, even if it was from several years ago. If you’re worrying about things like that in the first place, I think the questioner may have issues of their own as well.
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Basically, I think seeing multiple people is the norm in this world for both men and women, so I don’t have a problem with someone having other partners or still looking for them, and I wouldn’t ask them to leave the service either.
In my case, though, I might end things if a woman told me she had quit the service, only for me to later find out that she had lied. It depends on the person, but if things had started to feel a bit stale, I might see it as an opportunity to use that as a reason to end things.
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Staff member Kosaka here—I’d like to answer as well.
I’m sure some gentlemen feel hurt simply by being lied to, but I also feel that the person who drove them to lie may bear some responsibility too...
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As Maezawa-san said, I think it depends on why you came to believe she had withdrawn.
Personally, I often hear women casually mention that they’ve met other men, so I assume a woman has left only when she tells me herself that she has withdrawn.
If I later find out she’s still registered, I figure she has a habit of lying and quietly distance myself.
Specifically, even if she suggests setting a date for our next meeting, I no longer feel like seeing her, so I make up some excuse and avoid making plans.
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Thank you for your question.
Maezawa here.
“If he thought I had left the club…”
If the man simply assumed that on his own, then he sounds like the kind of man who jumps to conclusions. I imagine he would get angry, lecture her, and behave in a way that’s hardly what you’d expect from an adult.
A normal person wouldn’t assume a woman had left the club unless she actually said so.
On the other hand, if she lied about leaving and he believed she had quit the club, then he would have realized that she lied. Most men would probably be disappointed.
The real question is: why lie in the first place?
If the man kept pressuring her to leave the club and be his alone, then she may have felt she had no choice but to lie. In that case, I don’t think the woman is at fault—the man is.
If that wasn’t the situation and she lied anyway, then she seems to be the dishonest one. If there was no reason for him to ask her to leave, then there was no need for her to lie.
That said, some men believe it’s perfectly normal for women to be like Fujiko Mine and have no problem with it whatsoever. In that case, I don’t think there’s any issue.
Betrayal is like a woman’s accessory.
If you worry about every little thing, you’ll never be able to love a woman.
Don’t you agree?
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