I understand that once you enter society, there will always be people above you. While I realize this isn’t simply a financial matter, if I found a kind woman who was compatible with me and fulfilled me emotionally, I would be prepared to spend around 5–10 million yen a year on about three dates a month.
Would it be wiser, though, to maintain relationships with several trustworthy women instead?
Or would it be better to focus on just one woman?
It seems that relationships formed through this site can sometimes fall apart suddenly, so…
I met a woman here whom I’ve grown close to over the past six months. She said she wanted to travel together, so we’ve taken two short trips abroad.
It would be emotionally difficult if things suddenly ended, so should I look for one more woman as a backup?
Many of the people answering here seem to be dating multiple women, so perhaps that is the better approach. What do you think?
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Personally, I think it’s uncool for a man over 50 to get too emotionally invested in a woman in her 20s and become overly dependent. So I always keep several arrangements going at once, to the point where it won’t hurt too much if one ends.
After all, this is a relationship with money involved, so I try to keep things light and uncomplicated.
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Personally, I think it’s embarrassing when a man over 50 gets too emotionally invested in a woman in her 20s and becomes clingy. So I always keep multiple arrangements going at once—enough that it won’t hurt too much if one ends.
After all, this is a relationship with money involved, so I try to keep things light and uncomplicated.
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I think it depends on what you’re looking for.
If your priority is emotional connection, you might be better off seeing just one person.
That said, relationships can be fragile and fall apart even when they don’t begin through an arrangement like this.
If that would cause you serious emotional distress, then I don’t think an adult relationship (intimate) is really suitable for you in the first place.
For what it’s worth, I see multiple people because emotional connection isn’t my main priority.
I just don’t like the idea of having no one while I look for someone new if one arrangement ends.
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I think it’s best to focus on one person.
If you do see multiple women, I think you’ll be more satisfied if you limit it to women you genuinely feel that way about.
You might want to consider this based on the average length of your past romantic relationships.
Your relationship with a woman from the club will probably last about as long as your usual average. If your average is fairly long, you don’t need to worry.
If your average relationship has never lasted more than 10 years, then I think seeing multiple women would be better.
Based on the questioner’s life experience, you’ll probably be able to tell whether the two of you might consider it one of the best encounters of your lives. That’s possible even through a club.
If you feel that way, I think it’s fine to focus on one person. On the other hand, with a club, I also think it’s perfectly fine to have two such encounters.
That said, I think the key difference between romance and papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is whether you can fully satisfy the other person. It’s not just about visible things like the allowance, the terms of the arrangement, or gifts. If you can also convey your affection, feelings, and intentions in the ideal way without placing any burden on her, she’ll have no reason to leave.
If you’re skilled at romance, relationships involving an allowance should be easy.
I suppose it ultimately depends on how well you’ve managed to attract women in the past.
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Among the respondents, some prefer sticking with one person, while others always see multiple people.
You’ll naturally develop a style that suits you. Why not try different approaches and see what works?
You’ve got plenty of time—life is long, after all.
Marika
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If that’s your budget, why not try different approaches and see what works? Isn’t that part of the appeal of a dating club?
You may already know this, but here’s a little from my own experience: when dividing your budget between date expenses and the allowance, I feel things tend to last longer if you allocate more to the latter. Even if you splurge on a suite thinking it’s for her sake, she may not be all that pleased. Their view is often, “If you’re going to stay in a suite, I’d rather you increase the allowance.”
That may be disappointing to hear, but in the long run, I feel the relationship tends to work better this way.
Hope that helps.
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My papa (a male supporter) is exclusive to me now, but at first, he was seeing several women at the same time.
Still, if he’s genuinely serious about seeing someone, one person will naturally become his top priority, so I think it’s best to just be yourself.
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