I used to use an app (I’ve since deleted my account), but now I’m registered with Universe Club and another club. I recently received my first offer from the other club.
Since I wasn’t confident and didn’t show my face in my profile, I assumed it would probably just be a first meeting. However, when I met him and we talked, he said he really liked me and had fallen for me at first sight. We exchanged contact information and even made plans for our next date.
The allowance he offered may be fairly standard for clubs, but he promised to pay even more than the amount I asked for. He also asked, “Is there anything you want? If there is, I’ll buy it for you,” which really surprised me.
As for an adult relationship (intimate), he said, “That can happen eventually, and I don’t want you to push yourself if you’re not feeling well. It’s fine whenever you’re able to.” Our next date is just dinner and a movie.
I’m registered as Type B (and with a similar type at the other club), so with someone like him, I would have been perfectly comfortable having an adult relationship even on the second date. I never imagined I would meet someone like this.
The men I met through apps in the past made crude sexual jokes, said vulgar things, or tried to take me somewhere overnight by saying, “Why don’t we just stay over?” (I managed to get away by saying I had to catch the last train.) It was frightening, so I’m really happy that clubs provide a sense of security. I hope I can continue getting along well with him.
Sorry for the long introduction, but when I see him next, I’d like to give him some homemade baked goods and a present. (He doesn’t seem to have any food allergies or dislikes.)
He’s in his late 40s and runs a company, so I’m wondering what kind of gift he would appreciate. I’m considering something he could use for work, such as a tie, tie clip, or ballpoint pen.
Have you ever received a gift that made you happy, or given one that went over particularly well? I’d really appreciate your suggestions.
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If you really want to give them a present, build the relationship a little more first and make sure they’re the kind of person who would accept it. Otherwise, in the worst case, they might end up disliking you.
There could be all kinds of reasons they don’t want one—for example, they don’t like or eat sweets, don’t want anything homemade, or have a family and can’t take things home.
For now, just give your all and be attentive during your adult relationship (intimate). They’ll appreciate that much more.
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A gift can simply be something you happened to mention, or something I spotted while passing a shop that sells things you said you liked. Anything beyond that might actually be more of a burden.
These days, hardly anyone wears a tie properly, and “tie clip” practically feels like a dead term. And if you use a smartphone and a smartwatch, do you really need a ballpoint pen?
Please take a little more time to think things through calmly.
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I think you’re still at a stage where you haven’t seen men’s true nature yet. If you get too carried away by flattering words, people will take advantage of you.
After all, this is a dating club.
That said, I’m sure there are people who truly suit you in every sense, so I hope you’re able to build a good relationship.
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If it were me, for the first six months or so, I’d probably only give consumable gifts.
Even then, everyone’s different—some people don’t like sweets, for example—so I’d only give something if I’d had a chance to find out what they liked.
After six months, I’d still take my cues from them: if they seemed like the type to enjoy presents, I’d give them one; otherwise, I wouldn’t.
As a papa (a male supporter), I think it’s more than enough when she naturally shows her honesty, cuteness, and sexiness in the way she talks and acts every day.
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For the second date, I’d stick to baked goods and wait a little longer before giving him something to wear. It’s also best to check first whether his wife already buys him things like ties.
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You’re the one who wants to give a present, right? Then you’re imposing it on him.
If you’ve only been on one or two dates, take some time to observe him and figure out what he might actually appreciate. As Kazu said, everyone’s different. In particular, many married men feel more inconvenienced than happy when they receive presents.
What the other respondents say they liked or were happy to receive isn’t really helpful at all. It’ll just turn into a bragging contest or a “best answer” game.
If you absolutely want to give him something, choose something you’d be happy to give—not something you’d be happy to receive. That way, at least you’ll have fulfilled your own desire.
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