If your looks are above a certain level, there are men who would want to date you.
I think the problem is that your belief that your looks are average is mistaken. Unless you recognize the reality correctly and take steps to address it, you’ll just keep repeating the same pattern.
Even if your appearance really is above average, there could be other factors, such as a lack of cleanliness or unflattering makeup and clothing.
And if you’re popular with older men, why not be satisfied with that? There are people who can’t even attract older men. Happiness depends on how you choose to see it.
As people often say in this papa-katsu anonymous Q&A forum, you should start by working on yourself.
First, check yourself in the mirror:
Do you have any tarnish?
Any rust?
Then, look into the news and current topics—find out why they’re being talked about. After that, form your own thoughts on what you’ve learned.
I think that’s a good place to start.
Not being popular and being ignored aren’t the same thing—in fact, I think there’s a pretty big gap between the two. If you look good and still get ignored, it must be on a whole different level.
Do you actually have engaging conversations with older men? For example, do you end up talking for another hour or two at a restaurant even after finishing all the food, or chatting for a long time at a hotel after everything’s over, you’ve gotten dressed, and you’re ready to leave? And does that happen with most of the people who make you offers?
If you can hit it off with several men who are looking for someone younger, then I’d say the issue is probably the age group of the men you’re targeting. Prepare some topics younger people are into (even though you’re young yourself, lol), and once you figure out what they respond to, it should be easy.
If not, it may fundamentally be a conversation-skills issue. You don’t seem to be shy around people, but there are various possibilities: (1) you’re actually not interested in other people, (2) you’re forcing yourself and your opinions on them, or (3) you’re trying so hard to keep things harmless that you come across as boring. Each case calls for a different solution, so I’d need a little more information.
You could also just embrace it and switch to being popular through your financial resources. There are women who earn money in the adult entertainment industry or around Okubo Park and then diligently spend it going to host clubs, right?
Or, if you’re okay with not being popular as long as you’re genuinely loved by a small number of people, I don’t think you need to do anything that strange.
—Taro
