I have a question about STIs and contraception.

I get tested regularly. And if a pregnancy occurs, abortion isn’t necessarily the only option. However, if you do decide to have one, the general expectation is that the cost will be split between both parties when the sex was consensual. If you received an allowance in advance, the other person might argue that the abortion costs were already included in it. In any case, it’s not as simple as the questioner may think. Please make sure you understand the risks and proceed carefully.

Getting tested is a must. Even if you take precautions, infections can still happen when you’re in an adult relationship (intimate). You should especially get tested more frequently while you’re seeing new partners. AV actresses reportedly get tested once a month, so if you’re seeing a lot of people, I think that’s a reasonable frequency to aim for. Contraception overlaps with infection prevention, but I think using condoms is essential. After meeting someone several times and deciding you can trust them, having sex without one may be an option, but I wouldn’t recommend doing so from the start. As for the pill, people’s bodies react differently, so there’s no need to push yourself. You should also choose someone you can trust, including when it comes to what might happen in an unexpected situation. To sum up, I think someone trustworthy is a person who: 1) isn’t continuously seeing multiple partners, 2) considers the other person’s circumstances and doesn’t make unreasonable demands, and 3) is prepared to take proper responsibility if something unexpected happens. Of course, you should also strive to be someone others can trust. I think it’s best to consider what terms would feel right from a man’s perspective and act accordingly. Taro