You don’t have to write one, but having a comment does make your enthusiasm for dating come across more clearly.
Also, it’s probably best to avoid comments that are too long.
If I came across a profile with the exact question from this post written in it, I’d be interested and consider making an offer.
I used to think there was some kind of template for profile comments. A while back, I saw a lot of them starting with things like, “I’m nervous because this is my first time registering.” There was one woman who had registered several years ago but kept updating her comment with the same opening every time she had new photos taken. Part of me thought it was admirable that she hadn’t forgotten her初心, but another part of me thought, “Someone should really tell her.” Her registration date was from years ago, after all（笑）. Lately, comments like “Thank you for taking the time to look at my profile among so many women” seem to be popular.
A lot of women don’t write anything at all, so I think it’s perfectly fine not to do anything. Even when there is a comment, I can be put off if it’s excessively long or seems overly carefully prepared. I imagine women want to receive lots of offers, but from a man’s perspective, seeing “I’d like to meet all kinds of people” can raise suspicions that she’s promiscuous. Something like “Rather than seeing an unspecified number of people, I’d like to build a relationship with one person” might give a more refined, wholesome impression.
Many women write stylish things like “I enjoy going to musicals and plays” or “I like visiting museums,” thinking it might be good to have shared hobbies or topics to talk about. But I’ve never heard a group of guys talking and saying, “I really love musicals, you know.” On the other hand, I’d honestly be put off if someone openly declared, “I love dirty jokes!” More traditionally masculine hobbies, like cars, can sometimes be a good match, but when a woman writes them, they can come across as a little too intense, which makes me somewhat cautious. It’s fine when the club staff mention that she likes anime in their comment, but if she writes it herself, it might feel overly serious and put me off. Unless there’s something specific you absolutely need to convey, I think it’s smarter not to say too much.
Honestly, the content of the comment is a low priority. First come the photos, then the information provided by the club, and then the video. If she updates her comment some time after registering, I might think, “Oh, she’s still looking,” and add her to my list of potential offers. In that case, the fact that it was updated is what matters, so something as simple as “I look forward to meeting you!” is more than enough.
Taro
Some people don’t write anything in their profiles, so I don’t think you need to worry about it that much.
When staff interview them, they write about what they talked about during the meeting. So if the staff member likes you, they’ll often write a lot of positive things.
Also, even if the staff only leaves an average comment, attractive women still receive offers without adding anything themselves.
In the end, offers are mostly decided by appearance. However, whether it develops into an ongoing relationship depends more on the person’s personality and inner qualities.
As for what you should write, I think it would be fine to post the question exactly as you wrote it:
“Nice to meet you.
I recently registered, but this is my first time doing anything like this, so I’m not sure how to write my profile. What kinds of things do you all write?
I’m not very good with harsh comments (๑•́︿•̀๑)”
The men who read it might think:
“Wait, what? Women can’t see each other’s profiles?
That is kind of confusing.
Her photos are pretty nice,
and the staff comments are complimentary too.
I wasn’t desperate to make an offer,
but she might be worth meeting with a look like that.
All right, I’ll make an offer and let her know what kinds of comments the other women have written.”
You might even come across someone who thinks that way.
