Is a hotel dinner buffet a good idea for a first meeting with someone?
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If any of you have had a bad experience with a buffet, I’d love to hear about it.
With a set-course meal, you never know how much food you’ll get, and there may be dishes the other person doesn’t like. With a buffet, each person can choose what they like and take only as much as they want, so I thought it might be a good option.
That said, I’m worried that some people might feel uncomfortable having to get their own food during a first meeting.
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I wouldn’t want a buffet for the first meeting because you have to keep leaving the table, which makes it difficult to have a relaxed conversation. I think it could be enjoyable from the second date onward.
For the first meeting, you need a setting where you can take your time facing each other and talk about whether you click, as well as things like the allowance.
As others have mentioned, if it’s a matter of portion size, you can always order à la carte or get something extra.
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I’m a Type C, so for the first date, I only choose private rooms.
You can’t exactly have a conversation in an open setting like, “Would it be okay to go to a room afterward?” or “As for the terms…” lol
Just imagining ending up next to a group of ladies at a buffet is enough to make me cringe…
From the second date onward, I discuss it with the woman before deciding where to eat. If she’s someone who enjoys food, I’ll go to a hotel buffet with her.
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I love hotel buffets, and I’ve occasionally gone to one even for a first meeting.
When someone makes an offer, I ask whether they’d prefer a private room or a hotel buffet. The answers are about evenly split, so I go with their preference. There’s no difference in the outcome.
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Especially if he’s a young papa (a male supporter), I’d say it could work.
On our second date, he took me to the buffet on the 40th floor of Hotel New Otani in Kioicho, and I remember having a great time.
When I first met him, we went for lunch and ended up talking about job hunting. Somehow, the conversation turned to the bubble era, and I mentioned:
“Speaking of the bubble era, apparently the restaurant on the 40th floor of Hotel New Otani used to rotate at the top, so you could see the nighttime view in every direction.”
He said, “Wow!! That’s amazing!! It feels so typically Japanese from the bubble era—like it’s packed with ambition and desire.”
Then he asked, “Want to go next time?”
I said, “Yes, definitely!”
“Then let’s have a bubble-era-style date next time, haha.”
And we ended up going to the New Otani, which gave off a very bubble-era vibe, including the room.
I thought it went pretty smoothly, haha.
It wasn’t our first meeting, but the buffet was fun. Hope that helps.
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Personally, I sometimes choose a buffet for the same reasons as you.
I’ve never had a relationship fall through afterward because of choosing a buffet. (Although I can’t say I know what women really think…)
That said, if she’s expecting something like dinner at a restaurant with a night view—or somewhere she wouldn’t normally get to go—you might want to avoid a buffet.
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Everyone has their own sensibilities about that.
Personally, I don’t like buffets because I find them a bit tacky, but some women may agree with me, while others may genuinely enjoy buffets.
As for a setting date, I’d avoid them because I feel that having to leave the table to get food disrupts the flow of the date.
When it comes to portion sizes, I think it’s best to order a smaller course and add more if it isn’t enough, or simply order à la carte.
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I’m a little jealous of men who can eat a lot.
Normally, I’d say no, but given your age, your hearty appetite might actually suit you, and the age gap or papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) dynamic may not feel awkward.
Also, if you’re at a hotel, there are probably various restaurants available. Why not let him choose on the day from options like Japanese, Western, or buffet restaurants, including nearby hotels?
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