“Is it really okay for someone young and beautiful like you to be spending her time on me? It makes me happy, but I’d feel terrible if being with me kept you from getting married. I don’t want you to end up unhappy. I want you to be happy.”
They usually say this after about three months, once we’ve become closer.
Most of the men who say this end up sticking around, but I’ve heard it from several different people, so I can’t just brush it off. Please translate the real meaning without sugarcoating it.
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Just as Marika says:
Keep him wrapped around your finger with a simple “thank you.”
That’s the greatest happiness for a papa (a male supporter).
Giving a serious response to a troublesome man will only backfire.
It’s me.
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It’s basically the same as the original, though.
If you want to marry your partner just because you’re dating them, you wouldn’t let them get away, would you? I think simply saying “thank you” should be enough.
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That’s a classic papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) situation.
That said, I’ve never had anyone say that to me after such a short time—like three months. In my experience, when a papa says something like that after only three months, it’s usually just self-infatuation on his part.
Words alone aren’t enough, so make sure you look at his actions.
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What a high-maintenance papa (a male supporter).
It’s fine to feel grateful, but I wonder why he can’t get married. He seems to be mistaken about the situation, too.
You’re impressive for managing to stay with a papa who says things like that for so long.
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I’m with Seattle on this one!
Kana
I’m sure he appreciates it too.
That said, I think it’s better to keep your boyfriend or marriage separate from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
Your boyfriend or future spouse should come first. Depending on your circumstances, I’d recommend leaving papa-katsu sooner rather than later.
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Would it be okay for a young, wholesome girl like ○○ to spend time with an older man like me? It makes me happy, though.
I’d feel bad if she couldn’t get married because she was seeing me. I don’t want her to become unhappy—I want her to be happy.
That’s clearly just a machine translation.
I think it’s perfectly fine to simply be satisfied with the relationship. (If she wants to get married,) I do hope she doesn’t miss her chance, but that’s really none of my business. I’m sure you two are handling things properly.
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I wouldn’t put it that way, but once things have been going on for around three months, I start valuing the relationship more, so I become easier to please and tend to increase both the allowance and the shopping trips.
If those guys have also started giving you more allowance, it might mean exactly that—maybe this is your chance.
But if it’s nothing more than words, then they’re probably just the ramblings of a self-absorbed older man, so I’d just let it go in one ear and out the other.
Everyone values different things, so if those words make you happier than the allowance does, then that’s fine too. But words alone won’t fill your stomach or make you look prettier, so for me, it has to be both words and allowance and gifts.
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I’d be happy if someone as young and beautiful as her were suitable for my father to spend time with.
But I’d feel terrible if being with me meant she couldn’t get married. I don’t want her to be unhappy. I want her to be happy because of me.
Does this wording sound okay?
Taro
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I wonder if it's okay for a young and beautiful girl like 〇〇 to spend time with me though It's happy for me.
It's bad that you weren't able to get married because you were with me.I don't want you to be unhappy. I want you to be happy.
こんな感じでいいですか？
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