Would it be okay to use Universe Club solely to have someone be my first partner?

Thinking that young men are pushy while papa-katsu men are kind and more mature feels a little misguided to me. Wouldn’t it be better to wait until you meet someone you truly like—someone who will treat you well? There’s no age at which it becomes “too late.” No matter what reasons you give yourself, I think you’ll regret it later. Thinking that you’ll have your virginity “taken care of” by your papa-katsu partner can make you vulnerable to being taken advantage of. Akari

I can understand wanting an experienced, composed man to have penetrative sex with you, but— ☆I assume there aren’t any men who behave roughly. That’s completely wrong. There are kind men, of course, but even among those who weren’t popular when they were younger, quite a few have “studied” by watching AV. Ayase has been a victim of that, too. Some men seem to think that moving their fingers in and out with long, unhygienic nails feels really good. I’ve even bled because of it. If it’s your first time, you probably can’t bring yourself to say, “It hurts, so please be gentle,” right? In situations like that, it would be helpful if you could register and have the staff find you a man who will treat you gently… Staff—would you be able to accommodate requests like that?

This could be a serious question, or it could just be a random one, but in case it’s serious, I’ll answer. It’s entirely up to you who you choose to be your first partner. Universe Club only arranges meals for two people, so what you choose to do afterward is up to you. There’s nothing wrong with using Universe Club to find your first partner. As I mentioned before, there have been men who offered a very generous allowance, and it seems some continued seeing the woman afterward rather than making it a one-time arrangement. That said, there are all kinds of men out there, so I think it might be best to start with Dating Type B and meet several men for dinner only (no intimacy) at first. Then you can choose as your first partner the person you feel would genuinely treat you well. > “Staff, would you be able to make arrangements like that?” There used to be staff members who handled things that way. I think they would look for men who were willing to pay a very generous allowance and continue supporting the woman afterward, then introduce them by saying, “This person should be safe.” As a result, the initial allowance ended up being exceptionally high. However, I don’t know whether there are still staff members who do that now. Even back then, I think it was simply a matter of having a particularly dedicated staff member by chance.

It’s possible, but I wouldn’t really recommend it. Whether they’re your age or older, I think you’re better off meeting someone through a more ordinary relationship. That said, if you’re asking here, you must be dealing with some unusual circumstances or serious concerns, so making an exception may be worth considering. Even when it comes to a dating club, I approach the relationship as something that could last a lifetime, and I build the relationship accordingly. There are many things I entrust to her, relying on and trusting her even more than my wife at times, and things we work on together. So naturally, just as I’ve bought homes, cars, and similar spaces for my lovers and wife, and given them various gifts, I also give that kind of space to the women I meet through the club. I feel I’ve done about as much for them as I have for my wife—though in terms of the peak level of support, I may have even surpassed what I’ve done for my wife. At the same time, it’s something that makes us happy—probably both of us. You never know what life has in store. I don’t think there’s anything to lose by trying the possibilities while you’re alive.

I’m probably the only male respondent here who actively seeks out virgins. Last year, I helped four virgin women I met through Universe have their first experience. All four were reverse offers—they used the “You seem wonderful” feature to message “Mac,” who was registered at the Nagoya branch, and I responded by proposing a letter date. I’m still seeing two of them. They’re the women who posted these questions: https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/12670 https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/13698 There are quite a few women like them. If you’re worried about it being rough, one option is to have one of these two women hold your hand while you’re being penetrated. I’ve had that arrangement three times before, with an older, more experienced woman holding her hand. It seems to help ease the anxiety a little. They were all relationship type B, but almost all of them—three out of four last year—were intimate on the first meeting. If you’re interested, join and send me a reverse offer. Incidentally, there seem to be two age groups when women are unsure about losing their virginity: 19–20 and 27–29. The younger group probably feels that more of their friends have already had their first experience, while the older group seems to want to get it out of the way before turning 30. Which group does the questioner belong to? There are also requests like, “I want to keep my virginity, but I’d like to try something exciting.” Recently, I even had a vaginal virgin offer her anal virginity. I have absolutely no interest in anal sex; it was her idea. It may sound strange, but in some ways it’s much more difficult than vaginal sex. Anyway, I’m willing to accommodate requests from women who want to preserve their vaginal virginity while still having some fun, so I’m not exactly pushy. I’d say I simply don’t dislike it. It’s less about virgins themselves and more that I have a fetish for developing and guiding someone. P.S. > Some random old guy in some bizarre situation Could you perhaps be referring to the method of having an older, experienced woman hold her hand? It really does seem to make them feel safer. Men probably wouldn’t understand, and the women answering here may have forgotten, but for a young woman having her first experience, the biggest hurdles are pain and fear—not whether she’s in love or has feelings for the man. The same goes for discussions about losing one’s virginity, but I really feel that far too many people talk about things without knowing what actually happens on the ground. Though I suppose that’s just the grumbling of a Showa-era man in his sixties.

Statistically speaking, I think you should assume it’s not much different from dating people your own age. If anything, because there’s an allowance involved, you may even end up meeting someone exceptionally strange. As long as the man can pay the membership fee, the screening interview generally isn’t strict enough to turn him away unless he’s really problematic. [Edit] Either way, it’s entirely up to you, but personally, I think you’d be better off finding someone you actually like rather than doing it with some incomprehensible old guy in some incomprehensible situation. I don’t think it’s simply a matter of whether someone is good or bad at it. In any case, I hope you won’t regret your decision.

Since you’re looking to find someone for a relationship (sex) through the system of a dating club, I think it’s a reasonable option. That’s basically what dating clubs are for. That said, I think it’s overly optimistic to assume there won’t be any men who treat you carelessly. I’ve had many occasions where I had to comfort women who were hurt and in tears after being treated badly by a man. I believe it’s up to you—not the club—to judge whether a man will treat you well. If you’re looking for a sex partner through a dating club, you might want to register as Type B and clearly state that you’re looking for an adult relationship (intimate) with someone who will value and respect you. Then, I think the best approach is to wait until you meet someone you genuinely feel is right for you. Also, apparently there are men who seem gentle until they get into bed and then completely change, as well as men who are good people but simply terrible at sex. So it’s worth keeping in mind that you can’t predict what sex will be like based on dinner alone.