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Mar 31, 2023 20:37
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It’s not so much that they changed their mind—they just weren’t honest from the start.
Men often call her their “girlfriend,” but a papa is still a papa.
Nothing you can do about it.
Akari
Other
Of course, it happens.
I think it’s best to understand that the words, “I’m only seeing one person. I want to be with you,” are only valid in that particular moment—they’re fleeting.
So, for example, if someone said a few months ago, “I’m only seeing one person,” but you discover today that they’re seeing multiple people, you shouldn’t think, “But you said I was the only one! You lied!”
If you don’t want them to see multiple people, all you can do is sincerely face them in every moment: keep choosing them exclusively, and make them feel fulfilled enough to keep choosing only you.
If that still isn’t enough, perhaps you’ll be able to accept it as simply meaning that the two of you weren’t meant to be.
Other
I’ll give you a serious answer.
Quite a few women say things like that early in a relationship, but it’s best not to take them at face value. They probably say it because that’s what they want too, and because they think it will make them more appealing. But offers keep coming in, and after meeting several people, their whole perspective can change.
The only situation where I’d say there might be some reason to believe her is if:
① you genuinely feel that you struck a chord with her for some reason;
② you haven’t reacted to the words “you’re the only one” in a way that makes her think the relationship depends on it; and
③ her profile suddenly disappears.
Even then, you should remain skeptical, but in circumstances like that, I suppose it’s fair to say the possibility isn’t zero.
Sometimes people do continue seeing each other for a long time and eventually end up with just one partner. But that happens as the result of various developments and changes in circumstances—it’s not simply because she said, “I only have one partner.” And you’ll never know for certain whether you really are the only one. If she says, “I have lots of papas, but only one is truly important to me,” that’s probably about as good as it gets.
None of this is simple. But it’s also true that relationships like that genuinely do exist. If, despite your age, you found yourself getting excited by the words “you’re the only one,” then hold on to that feeling. I believe strategy and tactics should come from that feeling.
Wishing you the best of luck.
Taro
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If you can’t meet all of the questioner’s requirements, it will probably turn into dating multiple people.
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Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I don’t believe anything a papa-katsu girl says about allowance matters unless there’s actual proof. So there’s no such thing as her “changing her mind” or whatever. I assume she’s seeing multiple people to begin with.
Just like when a papa-katsu girl says, “I’m coming!”—you really shouldn’t take it at face value.
I’m honestly surprised by how many people seem to believe it when a papa-katsu girl says, “I’m coming!”
👨 Male
Universe member
It’s one of those questions that’s hard to answer because there are so many possible responses, haha.
It’s difficult to say without knowing more about the woman’s background.
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Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
After getting married, can a woman change her mind, cheat on you, and end up divorcing you?
Even if she was the one who said, “Let’s date,” can she still cheat with another guy?
LOL
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Could the Earth ever collapse?
I suppose that’s possible too.
That said, I think anything is possible. What exactly are you asking?
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
②
Of course there are.
Conversely, a woman who says she’s seeing multiple papas might eventually narrow it down to just one papa (a male supporter).
After reading Mr. Maezawa’s answer, I’d like to add:
> What is it you want to ask?
It seems they weren’t really looking for information—they just wanted someone to respond to them.
Being popular is tough, huh?（笑）