This is my first time posting. I’d really appreciate any advice from anyone who knows about this.
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I’m a woman in my 20s, registered about a week ago, and I have my first date coming up through an introduction club. I’m listed as Type C.
I’m worried because I don’t know what my class is, so I’m not sure how much allowance I should ask for if we hit it off and, after dinner, he asks about an adult relationship (intimate). I know it’s not good to focus too much on class rankings, but without knowing mine, I feel awkward giving a straightforward answer about the allowance I want.
I’m sorry for the long explanation, but I’ve only experienced papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) through apps, and I had decided that an adult relationship (intimate) would only be with someone I really clicked with, and that the allowance would be 70,000 yen or more.
Since this will be my first date through an introduction club, I’m honestly nervous. I also can’t help wondering about my class and things like that.
By the way, the man who sent me the offer is Platinum, rated five stars. Among the men who send me “You seem lovely,” about 60% have no class listed, 10% are Gold, 20% are Platinum, and 10% are Black.
Sorry this turned into such a long post, but if anyone has experience with this club or knows how things work, I’d really appreciate your advice.
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When it comes to suggesting an allowance, I think it’s best to state what you’d like. However, if you’re worried that doing so might make it difficult to continue seeing each other, you could suggest an average amount or leave the amount up to the gentleman.
As you continue seeing each other, there may come a time when you become someone special to him.
The allowance is important, but I think building a good relationship should come first.
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> I had decided that I would only pursue an adult relationship (intimate) with someone I genuinely clicked with, starting at 70,000 yen.
In that case, I think it’s perfectly fine to stick to the same standard this time too.
With Type C, you’re allowed to turn down up to 50% of the men, so the staff won’t say anything just because you decline someone.
(Men often want to have sex, so they can apparently be quite persistent.)
It’s also better to decide on your allowance in advance so you don’t waver or regret it later. I think whether you click with someone is important too.
Of course, I understand wanting to receive a higher allowance than you might get through an app, since this is a dating club.
If that’s the case, you could ask the man to name his offer first and, if it’s under 70,000 yen, say something like:
“Sorry, I was thinking of something a little higher.”
Then you can simply end the meeting.
(It’s best to confirm the terms before going to a hotel. Once you’re already in the room, it may be harder to leave.)
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There are all kinds of men and women at dating clubs, so I’m sure there are also people like you who place importance on the club tier and allowance amount.
> Only people I genuinely click with
If that’s the case, there are also men like me who never discuss or set an allowance amount at all.
Since you already have the prerequisite of 70,000 yen or more, I think it would be best to approach it with that in mind.
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I don’t think your class has anything to do with your allowance, so there’s no need to worry about what class you’re in.
If you really clicked with someone on the app and were receiving 70,000 yen or more, you could use that as a basis. Or, since this is a dating club rather than an app, you could ask for more. Alternatively, since it’s your first time with a dating club, you could lower it a little while you see how things go.
You should simply do whatever feels right to you.
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