I understand that seeing a married person comes with risks, but if the first meeting is just dinner, there’s basically no risk, right? Has anyone here had experience with this? Would avoiding any evidence help reduce the risk a little?

Am I right in understanding that the woman is married? If it’s a restaurant with lots of other customers, there’s a higher risk of being spotted. If you go from a private dining room at the hotel to a room at the same hotel, the chances of being seen would drop considerably. That said, if her husband looks through her phone in the first place, she’d be caught anyway.

What’s the fun in not taking any risks? I’m enjoying myself!

It’s best to avoid any relationship with a woman that could lead to trouble. We’re living in an era of 100-year lifespans. There’s no harm in waiting until you’re in a position where there’s no risk, no matter how much evidence remains.

For example, if you’re just going out for dinner, I think it’s better to reserve a private room, meet at the restaurant, and stagger your departure times. When it’s an adult relationship (intimate), avoid love hotels and use a regular city hotel instead. Of course, enter separately. Ask a trusted friend to provide an alibi. Condoms are essential. Pregnancy is out of the question, but it would be disastrous to pick up an STI and pass it on to your partner. Oral sex should be protected too. Chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, and herpes can all be transmitted through unprotected oral sex. Delete your LINE messages each time. Screenshot anything important and save it separately in a password-protected app. Ideally, don’t write things like “I like you” or “When should we meet?” directly on LINE in the first place. You could disguise it as a work meeting or something similar. If your spouse does find out, have the other person send you something like “I’m single,” and keep a screenshot so the inconvenience to them is minimized. If things come to a head, you can show it and claim that you were the victim of being lied to. If the man is married, he should keep around three million yen in savings in case the other person’s spouse sues her. If it comes to that, pay it out of those savings. Seriously, do you really want to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) badly enough to betray your partner? Or hurt someone else’s spouse? Keep asking yourself that fundamental question over and over, and only then decide whether to go ahead with papa-katsu. I’m not saying you absolutely shouldn’t do it. Just don’t do it halfheartedly. I wouldn’t go so far as to say you have to risk your life, but you need to give something up within yourself. If you’re going to hurt someone else, be prepared to be hurt yourself too. That’s about it, I guess?

Does that mean the person asking the question is married? If so, I think it also depends on whether you normally have opportunities to interact with younger women. If you’re in an environment where interacting with younger women is a regular occurrence, there’s no end to the suspicion if someone starts questioning you just because you went out for dinner with one. But if you rarely interact with younger women, even simply going out for dinner with one could be risky.

It depends on what you mean by “risk,” but if you take a broad view of it, I’d say the risks remain. Why are you asking about other people? Do you also wait to cross a crosswalk until you’ve seen someone else cross it first? What exactly do you mean by “evidence”? I think you should wait until you can ask at least one sensible question with a little more composure and intelligence before using a dating club.

If your spouse gets suspicious and hires a private investigator, there’s probably no point in trying anything. So it’s important to go out and have fun regularly, so your everyday life doesn’t look any different and you won’t arouse suspicion?! If it’s dinner only, the woman probably won’t have to pay compensation or be disadvantaged in a divorce, but she’ll lose her wife’s trust, and I imagine her actions afterward will be monitored. Though I suppose it depends on the wife. — Marika Huh? Do you mean the woman is married? Either way, the outcome is probably the same, but I think more women seem to be good at handling these situations one way or another.