I’m the one who asked a question the other day.

Kamihikoki, you’re amazing… Prioritize finding a boyfriend you can marry first. It’s fine to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) or adult entertainment work too, but be selective and only take well-paying opportunities so you can make the most of your time. If living with your family is getting on your nerves, move out on your own and cut ties with them.

Reading your question, I get the sense that you have a regular day job, tend to fall in love with the idea of love, and are thinking about doing both sex work and papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) on the side. It sounds like you simply enjoy the excitement of stepping outside the ordinary... If that’s the case, I think papa-katsu would offer more benefits—not the sex-work-style kind, but something more like a contracted-mistress arrangement. If possible, I think you could have a good relationship with a discreet papa, or with someone like me who is looking for a mistress. Ideally, you would narrow down your partners as much as possible and find someone you really click with. I only have one partner, but she openly says, “Papa-katsu isn’t so bad,” and seems to be enjoying an exciting life outside the ordinary. She’s involved with an old man who’s nearing 70, so it obviously looks unnatural when we’re together. But there’s an allowance involved, so if she can overlook that, it works out somehow. Also, if she’s the type to fall in love with the idea of love regardless of appearances, I have a feeling she’ll eventually start saying, “We’re such a perfect match” (lol).

Meeting Kamihiko-san will solve everything. You’ll fall in love. Just a few hours after meeting him, you’ll want to introduce him to your parents. You’ll faint from the shock of falling in love, and when you come to, you’ll be at TsuruTonTan. So first, sign up with the club. Then contact Kamihiko-san through the club staff.

You never know where life will take you or what might happen. You never know when something wonderful might come along. A turning point can appear at any time. As I wrote before, I’m like a paper airplane—you might sit next to me and chat for a few minutes, then end up going on a date later or even becoming my girlfriend. So I see not only schools, group dates, banks, and waiting rooms, but also job hunting, interviews, adult entertainment venues, and men’s esthetic salons as potential places to meet someone. I’m not fond of lively places packed with people, like cabaret clubs or lounges, so I don’t go to them. I don’t regularly visit the quiet, private settings of adult entertainment venues or men’s esthetic salons either, but a few hours later, I might be eating udon at TsuruTonTan with someone. Sometimes we meet every week because she wants advice. In one case, she eventually told her parents she wanted to marry me and I met them. We didn’t get married, but we never lost touch. Even now, after she has had a child who has grown up, she still comes to me for advice and keeps me updated—sometimes about things she can’t tell her husband. Even when I meet someone through an adult entertainment venue, our dates outside the establishment have nothing to do with allowance or anything like that. I simply meet her as someone she can unwind with and talk to. The work comes with a lot of stress, and I hear countless stories about men who completely misread the situation—more hilarious than mere complaints, really. Sometimes we just have a good time together. The women who only need someone to talk to generally stop meeting me once they leave the men’s esthetic salon or adult entertainment industry. The others continue keeping in touch. As a matter of principle, I never ask for someone’s contact information. I only give them mine, and they contact me almost every time. Of course, I only give it to people I genuinely like. Still, I think my appearance works in my favor: I look serious and not like someone who would get into papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) or an affair. Most of the women I meet this way keep their jobs secret from their friends and have no one they can talk to about them. This is the world we live in: when two people feel they need each other, they find a way to stay connected. Even while wandering through life, you never know when or where you might meet someone.

I’m not sure what you do for your day job, but is it really the kind of work that leaves you okay with doing both sex work and papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) at night? If you’re someone who wants to focus on building a career in your day job, I think you should prioritize developing your skills until around your thirties. Even after turning forty, I still feel like I’m learning every day, but you definitely absorb things more easily when you’re young. If you want to save money for your future through sex work or papa-katsu, that’s perfectly fine. Wanting to have extraordinary experiences through papa-katsu that you normally couldn’t have is also a valid reason. But wanting to become a top-ranked worker in the sex industry is, simply put, just wanting someone to recognize you. I feel you’d be better off looking for fulfillment in other ways.

You mean these two questions: https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/14857 https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/14858 Since you’re making things up on your own—even though no one said you were suited to a regular day job—I got the impression that you’re very set in your assumptions and probably not suited to dealing with people. In other words, I don’t think you’re suited to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), either. As for your reason for starting, I think life is basically about passing the time, so as long as it works for you, it doesn’t matter whether your reason is vague or anything else. Additional note: Not being suited to something does not mean you’re suited to something else that wasn’t mentioned.

You’ve written about various things, including your previous question, but I don’t think the answer to what you’re asking is here. If I had to answer in one phrase: “How should I know?” It seems like the kind of question that won’t get an answer no matter who you ask—not just on an anonymous Q&A site. Deep down, I think you already realize that yourself. If I were to give a slightly more thoughtful answer… Everyone has their own priorities. If new excitement takes priority over your current stability, you might pursue an affair or a new offer. And if money matters more to you than affection, you might break up with a boyfriend you love and sleep with a papa you don’t even like… What does the questioner want to put at the very top of their priority list? Once you become aware of that, I think you’ll be able to move forward confidently and without hesitation, no matter what kind of life you choose—thinking, “This is who I am.”

I read your previous two questions as well, and my gut feeling is that you’d have better luck finding a guy at a delivery-service escort agency who’s looking to meet outside the shop. The key is how you handle the initial approach, and I feel like you may be undervaluing out-of-shop meetings a bit too much. Back when I used delivery agencies as my hunting ground, I got a better impression from women who didn’t charge extra for intimacy, because it felt like they were being more genuine. When I asked one of them to meet outside the shop, I offered an allowance equal to what she would normally earn from the agency. My calculation was that, even if she saw two or three clients a day, being at a high-end shop with a 50% commission would make the numbers work out. Dating clubs are less efficient than escort agencies because there are fewer chances to meet people, but given your profile, they might still be worth considering. Rather than Universe, which tends to favor a polished, innocent image without embellishment, I feel you might do better at another dating club with a stronger escort-agency vibe. If a man you meet seems promising, you could try opening up about your darker side on the second or third meeting. If he still wants to see you again normally after that, you may be able to build a good, long-term relationship. I’m basing this on my own experience with a woman who claimed to be in the entertainment industry but was actually an AV actress（笑） I’m slightly bothered by passive expressions like “I’m easy to catch” or “once I fall for someone, I go all in.” You’re the one doing the searching, right? If so, I think you should face the fact that you’re looking for exactly that kind of person. In other words, once you objectively recognize that what you want is to play out a kind of “true-love scenario,” you can focus on the strategy: which fishing ground to use and what kind of bait will attract the ideal partner. In my experience, the difficult part is deciding on that mindset. Once you’ve reached a certain level of “enlightenment,” things become surprisingly easy. Happiness isn’t something that’s simply handed to you—you have to win it for yourself, don’t you? Good luck! （笑） Taro