Why do so many older men talk nonstop by themselves?
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I answer their question, and then they just keep talking forever. Even when I try to share my opinion, they interrupt me and continue talking on their own. All I can do is nod along.
I’m a college student, and none of the guys around me are like that.
But with older men, about 3 out of 5 are like this.
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I assume by “young,” you mean people in their 20s, right? Even among men in their 20s, there are plenty of annoying ones who just talk nonstop（笑）
I guess it depends on the person.
Is that how it feels to you? If men like that are common among papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) papas, then I must be one of the rare ones, since I hardly ever talk about myself and just focus on listening.
Rather than desperately trying to think of something to say during a silence, it probably feels easier for the woman if he talks on his own while she just half-listens and nods along...
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There are probably all kinds of patterns, but I feel like a lot of men tend to talk too much because they really want the other person to like them.
Part of it may be wanting her to know how amazing they are. And even if it’s not outright bragging, they may think that opening up and talking a lot about themselves will help the girl open up too. They may also feel that, since they’ve paid a high setting fee, they want to make the relationship progress smoothly...
Then there’s the complete opposite type: men who don’t usually have anyone around them willing to listen to them, so they think, “I paid to make this offer, so isn’t listening to me the least she can do?”
Either way, men who talk about themselves too much probably aren’t viewed favorably by women very often.
In my case, my partner does about 70% of the talking and I do around 30%. Even when we meet four days a week, we never run out of things to talk about, which makes me think we’re just really compatible.
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In my case, it’s actually the opposite of what you’re experiencing—I’m usually the one who talks more…
They all have plenty of life and work experience, so there’s a lot I want to ask them about. They’re also very receptive when I talk about my own work and pretty much anything else, so I end up going on and on.
When I ask for advice about my problems, most of them give me thoughtful answers, and it’s really enjoyable.
Maybe I do talk too much and put some people off, haha. But so far, I’ve been able to build fun relationships, so why not try consciously letting yourself ramble on and see how it goes?
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That may well be true, but I’m not very talkative myself, so it actually works in my favor (lol).
You don’t need to share your opinion on everything. If they’re talking because they want to, I think it’s perfectly fine to just listen and respond with the occasional “uh-huh” or “I see”!
When you really do want to share your opinion, try saying something like, “I see that’s how you feel. Personally, I…” Acknowledging what they said first may make them more willing to listen to you, too.
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That man either doesn’t realize women can talk endlessly, or maybe the women he meets just lose the desire to talk to him. He’s apparently been that way forever.
He’s not going to change, and he probably can’t appreciate or draw out the rich range of emotions women show on their faces.
Since he can’t even realize that, it’s best to give up and stop seeing him.
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