My birthday is coming up soon for a papa I haven’t known for very long.
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I’ve already secured his schedule for the day, but I haven’t decided what we’ll do yet.
Until now, I was younger, and since all the papas I’ve seen said they felt embarrassed about being celebrated, I never did anything special. We’d just go to a restaurant I picked, and he’d treat me as usual.
For papas I really liked, I’ve given them things like wallets, iPhone cases, and ties.
But this time, I’m genuinely stuck. He usually chooses the restaurants, and I can’t think of anything he might want.
I’d still like to make it a good memory, so I’d love to hear about anything that made you happy, as well as your success stories, mishaps—anything at all.
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With the man I used to see, I gave him things like an HERMÈS belt and tie, as well as a business card holder from another brand.
But I remembered him saying that, during our adult relationship, he wanted to completely ravish me—things like wanting me to “drink it” or wanting to leave his mark on me.
Since this is papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I feel he’d be happier with something like a full-course massage rather than material gifts.
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I’m Kōsaka from the staff, and I’d like to answer as well!
Gifts that last are certainly nice, but since some people in this industry are married, I once took someone to get a massage as a gift because I wanted him to relieve his everyday stress.
He was happy, but it happened to be a Chinese-style massage place, and we got someone who was incredibly strong(笑). Now it’s a fond memory we share!
So lately, I recommend the place Kōsaka went to for targeted massages. They have professionals specializing in things like head massages, so please give it a try♪
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The gifts I was happiest to receive from a woman I was seeing were a Squirtle plushie and a set of Squirtle stickers.
I love turtles, so it hit me right in the heart—like getting blasted with a water gun.
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Choosing a gift for a man can be tricky, can’t it? Especially when you met him through a dating club—he probably has plenty of money and can buy whatever he wants for himself…
As for my answer, I agree with Its Me’s opinion. I think he’ll appreciate it if you put thought into the gift and explain well why you chose it for him!
If you still can’t think of anything, I recommend an experience or outing you can enjoy together—like a couples’ spa treatment or some kind of hands-on activity. It’ll create lasting memories and give you a fun date idea, too.
I hope you have a wonderful birthday.
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If you’re genuinely interested in a man you like, you naturally pay attention to the things he uses and wears, what he doesn’t have, what might be due for replacement, and even things he could use at work or around family and colleagues without embarrassment. That lets you choose replacements or something new to give him, which I think makes the gift really resonate with him.
If you can’t think of anything, it probably means you’re only that interested in him.
There’s nothing more pointless than a gift that completely misses the mark.
In the end, it’s not the item itself that matters—it’s the fact that you noticed and cared about those little things that makes him happy.
Considering the timing, I think waiting until his next birthday would be perfectly fine. (There’s nothing I can’t buy for myself, and I’ve already bought anything I want.)
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The gifts I remember most from the past were things I wasn’t using at the time. They didn’t overlap with gifts from anyone else, so they really stood out. Of course, I remember them partly because I liked the women who gave them to me: a money clip, a key holder, a scarf, a coin purse… When I was happily wearing the scarf, my wife said, “When I gave you one, you lost it right away.” Looking back, does that mean she had already realized it was a gift from someone else?
> Since this is papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), things are less appreciated than something like a full-body massage.
If you do that regularly, you can probably make him even more devoted to you. There’s someone who gives me plenty every time, so I’m always grinning and feeling incredibly happy.
If you prefer receiving, men also enjoy having a massage from you while you’re undressed. With a romantic partner or spouse, that can naturally turn into a more intimate massage, so if you’re compatible, I think that can work really well in a club arrangement too.
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It depends on the papa (a male supporter), but for me, gifts bring more emotional satisfaction than material satisfaction.
Rather than what I receive or how expensive it is, what matters more is how he found something I’d like, how much time he spent looking, and what he did for me in the process.
Even if a man chooses something I don’t particularly like, I think I’d be really happy if there’s a good story behind it—if he can say, “I chose this because I was sure you’d love it.”
In my case, he had been observing me during our dates and noticed that I liked citrus flavors such as lemon and orange, and that I owned some orange-colored accessories. So he gave me an orange-scented fragrance.
I was married and was going through a period at work when I exchanged business cards constantly, so it was a fragrance for my business card holder. He even said, “With this, your family won’t suspect anything.” Fragrances are a risky, classic choice for a gift since everyone has different preferences, but he deliberately chose one anyway. That surprise completely won me over, haha.
It was Christmas three years ago, about three months after our first date. It’s especially effective when you’re still in the early stages of seeing each other.
I met that same woman again today, and we ended up talking about the number of recent offers she’s been receiving. Her consistently impressive numbers are truly remarkable. The staff clearly pay close attention too, and their profile comments describe her appeal beautifully. This is what it means when your actions directly lead to results.
Sorry for using my own experience as an example.
—It’s me
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“When she said, ‘Even if I gave you a present, anything I could afford is probably something you could easily buy yourself… So today, please be intimate with me without giving me an allowance. I’m giving myself to you as a present,’ it really touched me.”
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The things that made me happiest were when she dressed up as a maid for me and gave me a 30-minute massage.
I don’t need gifts. Even just putting a little more feeling into your words than usual is more than enough.
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