Many women I’ve met through Universe seem disappointed when I make offers to other women.

Women seem disappointed at the possibility of money coming out of my wallet, haha. I decide whether to bring it up depending on the person. I have a monthly partner who’s really into talking about papa-katsu. When I showed her the draft from my interview for Hinata’s papa-katsu report, haha, the conversation really got lively. I don’t bring it up with women who don’t seem interested when I mention it, but at the start of any relationship, I always make it clear that I support them having a boyfriend or seeing other papas. It really depends on the person.

> Many women seem disappointed when you make offers to other women. Of course they do… That’s why you simply shouldn’t make offers while you’re seeing someone. That said, I do understand the urge to make offers. When I started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I decided from the outset to focus on just one person, and that’s what I’ve been doing. I thought it would make the relationship more comfortable for her, too. The column “My Thinking Got Weird After Joining a Dating Club” by Saito-san♪ was one of my references. Once I actually started seeing her, it turned out to be really interesting! People on this Q&A site write things like “creepy” and “dirty old man,” but even with an age gap of over 40 years, she’s never said anything like that about me. At first, she was pretty assertive, so I thought I might be the one who got dumped. But nearly five years have passed with no end in sight. We’ve even got a Christmas party and New Year’s gathering planned, and we’re closer now than when we first started seeing each other（笑）

Of course, the natural reaction would be, “That’s too bad.” Whether it’s one person or several, the point of a club is to find your ideal partner. If she’s still making offers even though she has me, I think it would be interpreted as meaning that she still isn’t satisfied. And the fact that she’s asking you that also suggests that she herself isn’t satisfied—and that she senses you don’t feel fulfilled by her either. Unless you’re willing to look for your ideal partner while also striving to become someone’s ideal partner, you’ll never break free from this bind. On the other hand, you can continue making offers to various women and meeting them.

They lie effortlessly and constantly, without a second thought. It’s really not a hassle at all.

In my case, I make it clear from the start that I’m looking for a woman who, if we really hit it off, would be willing for us to focus exclusively on each other—and I genuinely follow through on that. So I’ve never been told, “I don’t want you seeing other women.” People look for different kinds of encounters through an arrangement club. Some want to meet all kinds of people, while others want to focus on just one person. When you say, “That’s what I signed up for,” I’m sure it’s because you believe that meeting various people is simply part of the deal at an arrangement club. But there are people—both men and women—who don’t see it that way. Of course, neither approach is inherently right or wrong. You just need to understand your own dating style, and if it isn’t a good fit, there’s no need to continue. If the other person is extremely upset about you seeing other women and it’s causing you stress, it might be worth considering ending things.

I’m Potassium, a female member. There may be quite a few people who feel the way the other respondents described. I have some of those feelings myself. ーーーーーーーーーー Potassium’s thought process (just my personal theory) 【If he was my very first papa-katsu partner】 If he started seeing more partners after me, I’d think, “Maybe I’m just not attractive enough…” I’d feel a little down, but every crisis is an opportunity! So I’d ask him to tell me everything about what makes the new girl appealing, lol. There’s no point worrying about it, so I move on to the next phase (②). 【If he was already seeing multiple girls from the start】 I’d want to know what he likes about the other girls, so I’d have him tell me everything. Then I’d move on to phase (②). Phase ② I take everything I learn about those girls’ appeal—the type of woman he likes, mannerisms he likes, hobbies and interests he enjoys that I’ve never discussed with him—and copy it all until it becomes part of me. Information is valuable! Being able to learn all of his preferences without having to figure them out myself is unbeatable. And if I’m lucky, I’ll gain new knowledge and become more cultured, too. By learning about other girls’ appeal through my papa, maybe I can become the perfect papa-katsu girl! Even if I eventually part ways with him, my value will have skyrocketed. (To my papa) You felt that way too, didn’t you? That’s why you ended up falling so deeply for me, right? Anyway, to sum up my approach to relationships: 【Change yourself in order to influence the other person】 It’s kind of like how a microwave or a steel-framed building affects Wi-Fi reception. ーーーーーーーーーー Getting back to the question, I think there are quite a few papa-katsu girls who think this way. We can’t exactly complain about men seeing multiple partners, so of course the important thing is figuring out how to make your own stock skyrocket! Either find a papa-katsu girl who thinks this way, or hide the fact that you’re seeing multiple partners—I think those are the best options. That was just my personal theory. I tried decorating my post today. Wait… is that an outdated expression now?

They simply don’t like: - Their allowance being reduced - Their priority dropping (fewer meetings = less allowance) - Being compared to others That doesn’t necessarily mean they want to have you all to themselves.

As you said, “There are many,” everyone has different feelings and opinions about what to do. Don’t you realize there’s no one definitive answer to “What kind of response do women want?” I find it bothersome to remember the lies I’ve told, so when I’m asked, I just tell the truth. Women receive offers too, so I’d say it cuts both ways.

If I had to speculate… I don’t think it would be a problem as long as the allowance and frequency of meetings stayed the same, even if he offered to see someone else. I think what she probably dislikes is that seeing someone else would mean meeting her less often—and if it’s a pay-per-meeting arrangement, that would also mean receiving less allowance. Also, she probably understands that this isn’t the same as a romantic relationship, but still wants to be number one among the people he’s seeing. And honestly, being told “You’re the most important to me,” even if it’s not entirely true, feels better than being told, “You’re probably the third most important.” Men feel the same way, don’t they? Wouldn’t you rather hear, “You’re my favorite and most important sugar baby,” than “I guess you’re third among my sugar babies”? That’s probably all it is. As long as neither of you goes on and on about it, I think you both understand that the other person may be seeing someone else, so there’s no need to bring it up deliberately. If you really want to talk about other women, then you should date someone who doesn’t mind or is willing to listen to that kind of thing.