I really feel like God has it in for me.

Cosmetic surgery clinics and dermatology clinics will usually recommend something called a medical loan, so I think that would be the better option. I do think papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is one possible way to earn the money, but— Dating clubs are extremely looks-focused. Even if you don’t have scars on your face, you may only receive half as many offers as someone considered more attractive. Finding a generous (well-paying) papa, who is supposedly highly sought after, would already be competitive—and maintaining that arrangement would probably require skills beyond just your appearance. At first, your looks are what bring in the offers. If a papa doesn’t like your appearance, you likely won’t even get the chance to compete for his attention. Also, very few people would pay enough in a single meeting to cover the cost of treating those scars. So if you want to earn the money that way, continuing with the same papa would probably be essential. In that case, you’d need something—some kind of skill or appeal—that could compete with the looks of the other women even more than before. Wouldn’t trying to earn money in a place where your appearance is especially valued, in order to repair facial scars, be even more difficult and harsh than your current situation? Of course, if you’re prepared for that, then it’s a different story. That’s why I think taking out a medical loan, treating the scars, and then doing papa-katsu to work toward repaying the loan would be the more realistic option. That’s just my personal opinion, though.

Reading your question reminded me of a book called *Jisung, I Love You*. It’s a true story about a beautiful university student in Korea who was involved in a traffic accident and suffered burns over 55% of her body. The feeling expressed at the beginning—that “I seem to be completely hated by God”—might change after reading this book. I can’t fully understand all the pain you’re going through, and I don’t know what the right thing to do is either, but I thought that reading this book once might change something for you. I hope both your body and heart will heal.

If you were deliberately hurt, why not file a lawsuit and seek compensation? With papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you need to be reasonably attractive to receive offers, so registering would probably be a waste of time. You might not even pass the interview. It seems you’ve got the wrong idea, so you should leave it alone.

I hope a cosmetic dermatologist can help clear it up for you (´；ω；｀) I find it hard enough just wanting to get rid of my acne, so I can only imagine how tough this must be for you. Maybe you can start again once it’s healed!

I don’t think there are many men in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) who aren’t looking for good looks. Just as there aren’t many women who don’t expect an allowance from their papa (a male supporter).

I once dated a woman who had a scar on her face. She used makeup to make it less noticeable, but it was still prominent enough that you could tell she had one the moment you met her. Even so, it wasn’t until around our third or fourth meeting that I finally asked, “What happened to your face?” By then, we had gotten close and could talk about all kinds of things, so I brought it up casually, like, “By the way…” She told me the whole story without any hesitation. She’d been in a traffic accident and had a piece of glass smash through her face. If anything, it was more a case of, “How did you get off so lightly?” She had already come to terms with it, and for me, it was simply that the woman I had fallen for happened to have a scar on her face. It didn’t change anything beyond that. This may not be very helpful, but there are certainly cases where someone doesn’t mind a facial scar. (^^;; I understand how painful it is when your body is injured and can’t return to the way it was—I’ve experienced that myself. If there’s a way to restore it, you should absolutely consider doing it. But you may want to think carefully about how to raise the money. As I mentioned at the beginning, there are certainly people who won’t mind, but there will also be people who do. Given your current state of mind, you might feel extremely hurt when that happens. Rather than taking that risk, wouldn’t it be better to earn money in another way, or get treatment first by taking out a loan and then enter the papa-katsu scene? When your body is hurt, your heart gets hurt too. Physical wounds can be treated surgically, but emotional wounds can only heal naturally, and that takes time. Until then, protect and take care of your heart through your own strength. That’s something only you can do. Taro

You’ve really been through a lot. Having a facial scar that won’t go away in your twenties must be incredibly painful. I take it that treatment covered by insurance won’t fix it, but treatment at a cosmetic dermatology clinic might—though it wouldn’t be covered by insurance. So you feel you need to earn the money for it… Is that right? That said, I’m not sure papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is really the best way to save up that money. As a relationship develops through papa-katsu, there are certainly people who want to support their partner without thinking in terms of what they’ll get in return. If the woman I’m currently seeing suffered a facial injury and wanted to do something about it, I’d pay for her cosmetic dermatology treatment without hesitation. However, I’m only able to do that because we’ve both continued seeing each other exclusively for a substantial period of time. Generally speaking, at a dating club, a woman’s looks are the first—and most important—factor male members consider when choosing someone. There’s no question that having a noticeable scar puts you at a disadvantage from the outset. I’m concerned that if you have trouble receiving offers, or if offers don’t lead to second meetings, you might end up thinking, “I guess it’s because I have a scar on my face,” and get hurt emotionally. If you have the kind of strong mentality that lets you think, “Even with a scar on my face, I can make it work with my figure and communication skills!” then that’s one thing. But after suffering a facial injury, deliberately choosing a place where your face is valued above all else seems a little risky to me. If you want to earn money, why not consider options where your face isn’t visible, such as working as a chat hostess? Even so, if you decide to pursue papa-katsu, I wish you the best. Having a facial scar certainly doesn’t mean you’ll get no offers at all!

It seems you may have misunderstood something: a generous papa (well-paying supporter) doesn’t exist as such before entering into an arrangement with you. As a male member continues seeing you, he becomes a generous papa (well-paying supporter) specifically to you. In other words, the man who is willing to give more becomes your generous papa (well-paying supporter). Don’t forget that this is how it works.