How long should we be seeing each other before I can ask her out for a drive date?
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We’ve been in an ongoing arrangement that includes an adult relationship (intimate) twice a month, and it’s been six months now.
Driving is my hobby, and I’ve always dreamed of going on a drive date with my PJ to see the beautiful night views.
If there’s any guideline—such as a certain amount of time or a particular kind of relationship—I’d appreciate your advice.
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I’d be happy to go for a drive on the second date, too.
But in this case, I think the best thing to do is ask your date directly.
She’ll probably appreciate it if you drive safely and smoothly, without revving the engine—just a comfortable, reassuring ride.
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People who enjoy driving dates may be fine with it even on the day of the date, while those who dislike being in a car probably won’t change their minds no matter how much time passes. So rather than asking here, I think it would be best to ask her directly.
I personally enjoy driving dates and driving itself, so my opinion of someone would go down if they were a bad driver or had poor driving manners.
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I think it depends on the person.
The length of your usual dates and your position in the arrangement may also make a difference.
So if she’s not open to it, she may never be. For now, I’d suggest simply asking her.
If she says no, I suppose all you can do is approach someone else.
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I feel like it all comes down to whether she wants it.
Some women are comfortable with a transactional relationship but draw the line at simply meeting in a room.
You could try hinting at it and see how she reacts.
And since it’ll take longer, don’t forget to discuss an additional allowance.
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The other day, I completely bombed at work. On top of that, several people got seriously pissed off at me.
But still, a few people praised me, saying, “The courage it takes for Flamme to do that at that exact moment is incredible,” so I gained a few more Flamme followers, lol.
This is basically my strategy: You can win because you’re willing to lose. What you need isn’t a manual or a skill—just courage. Let’s find the courage to lose.
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I usually go on a drive date from the very first meeting.
Even on the first date, I often ask where they’d like to go and take them somewhere a little farther away. It’s kind of like a day trip, and half a day—or even a whole day—can fly by.
If it’s a date arranged through a matching service, you can probably ask whether it’s okay to pick them up by car.
There have only been one or two people who said they didn’t want to ride in a car on the first date. One got carsick. The other was driving toward the meeting place but messaged that she was running late, so I asked, “Would you like me to pick you up at the station?” She initially declined, saying, “It’s okay, I can walk.” But a little while later, she asked, “Actually, would you mind coming to pick me up?” So it ended up becoming a drive date after all.
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> I’m into driving, and I’ve always dreamed of going on a scenic night-drive date with my PJ someday.
You should tell her exactly that and suggest, “Would you like to go somewhere with a beautiful night view on our next drive date?”
That said, for the first time, it’s probably safest to keep it to: driving somewhere → a restaurant with a nice night view → (the hotel) → driving her to the station she prefers (but not all the way to her home).
Going deep into the mountains for a night view is probably too much if you’re asking about it here in the first place. If you’re very experienced, it may be fine, but you really shouldn’t assume you’re an expert.
She might feel scared.
Also, people who love cars tend to speed, and you may feel like showing off the engine sound, but both would be completely counterproductive.
Driving a fast car slowly is what shows adult composure. If she likes speed, she’ll bring it up herself, so you might show her what the car can do for just a moment in that case.
But basically, I think the best approach is to drive a fast car calmly and slowly.
Of course, there are exceptions. If she’s also a street racer or simply loves driving fast, it may be different. Even then, though, speeding could make her think you’re a bad driver, so it probably depends on how much you’ve honed your skills over time.
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I’ve been a member of the club for five years now, yet I’m still wandering around and haven’t settled on a particular dating style. I understand wanting to ask someone for advice when you can’t exactly discuss these things openly. But still, there has to be a limit. As someone in his 50s, is it really appropriate to ask others when the right time is to go for a drive?
Rather than asking here, why not simply invite the woman you’re interested in?
Surely you’ve already decided where you plan to take her and what kind of drive you have in mind, right? And even if you haven’t, please don’t ask about it here.
As someone your age, I wish you the best!
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Regardless of how close you are, if you want to invite them, I think you should just give it a try…
If they feel it’s not really their thing, they’ll turn you down, and if they’re up for it, they’ll go.
I don’t think it’s something you need to worry about that much. If you’re seeing each other, why not ask?
I hope you get to go on that drive date! I’d be happy to go if it were me! I hope you have a fun date!
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