I’m going on a trip with my papa. Before checking into the hotel, we’re planning to have lunch somewhere. Since my papa isn’t good at making restaurant plans, he told me to choose the restaurant and course, so I sent him several options. But afterward, I found somewhere I really, really want to go.
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Honestly, I’d prefer that place, but it costs about twice as much as the options I sent him.
If I message him, “I’d really like to go here. Would that be okay?” will he be put off? Do you think he might even cut ties with me…?
He’s the kind of person who says he’d rather have a 3,000-yen kaiseki meal than 30,000-yen French cuisine.
My allowance is 60,000 yen per pay-per-meeting date, plus another 60,000 yen as a travel allowance. He meets me three or four times a month, working around the days and times I’m available, and he never refuses anything I ask. He’s also a gentleman, so he’s my most generous (well-paying) papa.
Should I just be modest and stick with the original options?
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If it’s double, go with the restaurant you’d most like to visit.
Just be a little strategic with your wording: emphasize that it’s a bit pricey, but somewhere you’d absolutely love to try!
I hope you get your wish and enjoy a delicious lunch!
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I don’t think I’d take it badly.
The reason is that the woman asking the question sees him as a generous (well-paying) papa (a male supporter).
When a woman likes you, you naturally feel inclined to indulge her a little, even when she’s being somewhat demanding.
Of course, the man probably has a budget too, so if he says, “Hmm, that might be difficult,” I think it’s best to simply accept that and back off.
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If you sent a message saying that, would he be offended? Do you think he might end things with me…?
If you’ve been seeing each other for a long time, you’ve probably gotten comfortable with each other and understand one another well, so I don’t think he’d take it badly.
When someone decides to end things, I think it’s usually because frustrations have been building up beforehand.
> Honestly, that’s the place I’d prefer, but it costs about twice as much as the other options I sent him.
I think it would be best to just tell him exactly that.
If he’s okay with that budget, he’ll probably appreciate that you were considerate of his finances and think you’re a good person. If it’s over his budget, he might say something like, “Sorry, I’ve already made a reservation.”
That said, if you haven’t been seeing each other for very long, it might also be best not to say anything this time.
Although, if you’re close enough to be going on trips together, I feel like it would probably be okay to bring it up.
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I’m Potassium, a female member.
I’m not very good at saying things in the typical papa-katsu girl way, so this may not be very helpful, but if I were in the same position, I’d tell my papa.
If you’ve already sent him a few options, he’s probably expecting prices in that range, so I’d honestly say something like:
“I actually found an amazing place, and I’d really love to go, but it’s a little expensive… Since you’re already paying for the trip, I feel bad being so demanding… but I’d love to go there with you. I don’t want to pressure you, though, so if it’s difficult, I’d be happy if we could go there the next time we travel together.”
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If he said it wasn’t possible, I’d give up. But my papa is too kind, so most of the time he says, “Sure, that’s fine.”
Thank you for always indulging my demands.
(Sorry for gushing.)
That’s just my personal opinion, so it may not be very helpful.
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How about saying:
“I checked the prices and it’s a bit expensive, but I found a really lovely place. Would it be okay if I added it to the list of options?”
I don’t think he’d cut you off over something like that, and you could always go another time…
Why not ask him in a cute, casual way?
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It depends on the person, so there’s no way to know for sure.
Preferring kaiseki to French cuisine may simply mean that’s the kind of food they like.
Why not ask while mentioning that you’d really like to go to that restaurant?
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