I’m Yo-chan, a low-paying papa (a “black member”). I make it a point not to get serious about or become attached to the girls I see through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), since I consider that bad manners.
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To prevent this, how do you all handle things?
In my case, even if I meet an S-class girl, I limit our arrangement to no more than twice a month. I also make new offers to spread out my feelings and keep myself emotionally balanced.
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I may be in a similar situation to you.
Basically, I see three or four women I like on a monthly arrangement.
The lineup sometimes changes little by little, so I can enjoy things without losing that sense of freshness.
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If a girl says she wants to see you, I think you should generally make time to meet her.
If that means twice a month, that’s fine. If she wants to meet more often—even three or four times a week—that’s fine too.
I think it’s best to see each other as often as she wants.
And if you’re willing to meet that often, you should find a girl who also wants to see you a lot.
Meeting twice a month is less of a relationship and more like simply seeing each other now and then. It probably won’t have a dramatic ending, but it’s still just a connection where either of you could walk away at any time.
Once you understand that and genuinely become serious about her, she’ll feel more secure, and I think you can build a better relationship.
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I thought seeing multiple people would be effective, but looking back, I tend to give my all to everyone. Even if I limit how often we meet, it only makes each relationship more intense, so it feels pointless.
My relationships tend to last fairly long, and I’m not taking any of them too seriously or becoming attached, so I’ve stopped trying to force some kind of balance.
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I’m always distracted by someone new, so I’ve never ended up in the situation described in the question.
Even someone I thought was the best I’d ever met when we first met will start to lose their appeal after six months to a year at most.
There are many different styles of relationships, and it’s up to the people involved to decide what works for them. Of course, it’s different if the other person is clearly uncomfortable, but if you’ve found someone you genuinely want to stay attached to, why restrict yourself? I think it’s fine to simply follow your feelings and let things develop naturally.
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It’s simple.
Just follow the rules you agreed on when you started seeing each other.
Keep things steady and drama-free, without causing any inconvenience for the other person.
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