I’m a man in my 50s, and I have a question about where to meet.
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I usually meet at a hotel lobby or somewhere similar, but I sometimes arrange to meet in front of a Starbucks or at a clock tower near the restaurant, since I feel bad making her walk because of the restaurant’s location.
There isn’t really a suitable hotel nearby, either.
Would meeting at a conspicuous place such as in front of a Starbucks or at a clock tower be considered a no-go?
Would it be more sophisticated to meet at a hotel and take a taxi to the restaurant?
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In my case, I arrange to meet outside the restaurant, or in the hotel lobby if there’s a hotel nearby.
Meeting by the clock tower seems fine, but I think it’s better to avoid meeting in front of Starbucks.
The reason is that the woman may misunderstand and think you’re about to go into Starbucks.
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As I mentioned before, meeting up on the street at a place like Alta in Shinjuku really made me lose interest in going. But the place he took me to was a high-end yakiniku restaurant.
My impression would have been much better if we had met at the restaurant from the start.
If that’s the case, please let me know the reservation name in advance.
We took a taxi from the restaurant to the hotel.
—Marika
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I usually meet them directly at the restaurant.
Even when I suggest meeting at the station and taking a taxi together, most women say they’d rather meet directly at the restaurant. Waiting outside can attract unwanted attention, which makes both of us feel awkward.
We take a taxi from the restaurant to the hotel.
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In my case, especially for the first meeting, it’s usually at an indoor venue like a hotel restaurant, so unless it’s somewhere crowded, I either meet them in front of the restaurant or arrive early and wait inside.
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I think meeting somewhere with plenty of people around feels more natural and attracts less attention.
A local meetup spot—like by the clock tower, outside Starbucks, or in front of McDonald’s—should be perfectly fine.
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In front of the Starbucks near the restaurant
That should be fine. Is meeting in front of Starbucks too conspicuous? I don’t think you need to worry about it that much.
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I’m a confused 60-something.
We usually meet at the station nearest to the restaurant, but if the distance to the place feels a bit awkward, why not meet at the next station over and take a taxi? It might be better to leave a little space between you.
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When the meeting is set at Starbucks, Tully’s Coffee, or Saint Marc Café, I lose the will to go from the outset. Please stop doing that.
Don’t you have dinner at a restaurant in a hotel?
Surely you’re not going to a family restaurant or an izakaya, are you?
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We’re both in our 50s, and I’m kind of happy that we seem to have the same concerns, haha.
Joe also generally meets at a hotel lobby, then travels by taxi. If it’s a private room, it may be at the place where we’ll be dining. In other words, for a first meeting, I generally make it a rule not to walk anywhere.
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