As some respondents have pointed out, there seem to be women who can only have sex with one person and women who can date multiple people. Is there any way to predict which type someone is from her profile or at the first meeting?
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I’m currently seeing a woman who can only have sex with one person, and I’m not quite sure what to do with the situation. If possible, I’d like to avoid this kind of arrangement in the future.
I imagine even a woman who’s new to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) may not know her own preferences yet. Would it be better to avoid beginners and see women who are already aware of what they’re comfortable with?
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Women who only want to see one person tend to be high-maintenance.
So I can understand why the questioner feels they might be more than they can handle.
That said, in my personal experience, women like that were more common among Types A and B.
Women in Types C and D tend to be more pragmatic, so they seem less likely to insist on seeing only one person…
However, some women don’t realize they only want to see one person until they actually try it themselves.
In other words, it’s difficult to identify this from a profile alone.
As a general rule, I think it’s safest to make offers to women who fit Types C or D.
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You’ve misunderstood her.
There’s a big difference between a woman who can only have sex with one person and a woman who wants to date one person at a time as much as possible to reduce her risks. I suspect the woman you’re talking about is the latter. Women in the latter category can also date multiple people.
Also, I’m not really sure what you mean by saying you’re “at a loss” with her, but it sounds like the problem may lie with you rather than with her.
If you had made it clear from the beginning that you wanted to date multiple women and that she was one of them, things probably wouldn’t have turned into this kind of relationship.
It seems to me that there may be a problem with how you’ve behaved up to now.
> Is there any way to predict this from her profile or at the first meeting?
It may be difficult to judge from a profile, but at the first meeting you can learn quite a lot. After meeting her a few more times, you’ll understand her even better.
If you really want to avoid this through the club, I suggest asking the staff to introduce you to a popular woman—someone who receives a lot of offers.
They probably can’t accommodate an unreasonable request like “Tell me everything about her,” but if you simply ask them to introduce you to one popular woman, they’ll probably do so right away. If you then place offers properly without making a fuss, the staff’s trust in you will likely grow as well.
Sometimes men ask to be introduced to someone, then refuse to make an offer because she isn’t their type. If that’s the case, they shouldn’t have asked the staff in the first place.
I don’t understand the mentality of asking for an introduction and then turning her down. If you want someone who matches your preferences, look for her yourself.
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I wonder if what that woman is saying is really true.
Everyone says that, though…
As Mac-sama says, I think there are a few women like that. But if you can’t handle her, why not let her go? Since there aren’t many people with that mindset, you should be able to date multiple women if you look for ones with higher ratings or more offers.
Oh, and if you’re dating multiple women, be careful about STIs. Even just performing oral sex—or having an infection in your mouth—can lead to transmission through kissing, so please be careful.
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I’m not sure how to judge from someone’s profile, but at the first meeting, I also let them know that I’m seeing multiple people. When I do, they’ll usually talk about their other papas as well, so I think you can get a sense of whether they’re okay with a non-exclusive arrangement.
So I’d say just keep making offers until you find someone who’s comfortable with that.
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First of all, I’m not sure how you concluded that she’s “the kind of woman who can only have sex with one person,” and I also don’t see how that relates to “somehow being more trouble than she’s worth.”
The former is something only women can really understand, and I don’t think it has much impact on the male side. As for the latter, maybe you mean things like sending lots of lovey-dovey messages or being possessive, but that’s an issue with the woman’s dating style. There are plenty of women in multiple relationships who set up that kind of dynamic.
If you want something casual, straightforward, and fun, I recommend Type D.
With Type C, you may have better luck finding someone who matches your needs by choosing a woman whose profile says things like “I’m pretty laid-back,” “I prioritize the terms,” or “I prefer a relationship where we don’t pry into each other’s private lives.”
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> I think there are women who can only have sex with one person, and women who can date multiple people,
That applies to romantic relationships, not to the club.
Even when both men and women are seeing multiple people, most will still say they can only do that with you.
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I understand what you’re asking.
The woman I’m currently seeing is like that, too, but we’ve continued seeing each other while smoothing over those differences. In my case, I’m an old man myself and have concerns such as sexually transmitted infections, so I’m grateful for the arrangement.
Some women mention this in their profiles, but I don’t think you can really know until you actually meet and date them.
Also, if she’s new to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), she may simply be seeing things as normal and going along with the arrangement. I’m practically a beginner myself, so I just assume this is what it’s like.
> Would it be better to avoid beginners and date women who understand what they’re doing?
I’m not quite sure what you mean by “understand what they’re doing,” but if both you and the other person are happy with the arrangement, I think that’s all that matters.
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Female member, Potassium here.
First, this is just my opinion, but…
Huh? Then why doesn’t the person asking the question simply date multiple women?
And if you really like your current girl and want to keep seeing her, then—if she’s asking you not to date anyone else—you could just tell her, “You’re the only one.” Isn’t that enough?
Of course, if you’re seeing multiple people, be careful about STIs!
There are also girls who tell each papa, “You’re the only one I’m seeing.”
I heard this from a papa: apparently, there was a girl who said, “I’m not getting any offers—you’re the only one,” while her club ratings were going up and down like crazy. He said he couldn’t trust her. lol
Since these are relationships through a dating club, I think you have to handle the human side of things carefully!
If being unable to date multiple people becomes a dealbreaker, wouldn’t it be better than losing the current girl’s papa—meaning you, in this case?
There are all kinds of people in this world~~
That’s just my personal opinion, though.
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