I’m a man who has been registered for less than a month. I have a question about the allowance amount.
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I’ve been reading the posts in this Q&A section with great interest, and I get the impression that many people suggest:
First meeting, tea only: 10,000 yen + transportation
First meeting, meal only: 20,000 yen + transportation
Personally, I’d like to leave a good impression, so at the moment I give 50,000 or 70,000 yen for a first meal-only meeting.
(I don’t mention the amount beforehand; I give it to her before the meal.)
As for whether this is a good idea, I can see several possible perspectives:
- It creates a good impression, so it’s fine.
- It may put a financial burden on her.
- It’s useful because it gives me an idea of her attitude toward money.
With so many things to consider, I’m unsure how I should proceed going forward.
I’d appreciate answers from both female and male members.
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It’s surprising to hear you say that opinions such as these are common in the Q&A box:
- First meeting: 10,000 yen for tea only, plus transportation
- First meeting: 20,000 yen for dinner only, plus transportation
At least, that isn’t the case for me, and I believe most people follow the club’s standard: 10,000 yen for dinner only, with transportation covered only when someone is being invited from far away.
You might want to look through the Q&A box a little more carefully before asking your question.
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For the first date, offer ¥5,000–¥10,000 for transportation, with no payment for dinner.
For the first date, offer ¥5,000–¥10,000 for transportation, plus the allowance for an adult relationship (intimate).
Just because you offer a lot doesn’t mean she’ll be interested in you—money is the only thing that attracts her. From the second or third date onward, gradually increase the allowance for someone you genuinely click with. That way, you won’t waste your time or money.
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If your goal is to leave a lasting impression on a woman, why not focus less on offering a generous allowance for each meeting and more on showing that you’re someone she can feel comfortable and secure seeing?
Giving a large allowance for dinner-only dates may be one approach, but what terms would you offer if things progressed to an adult relationship (intimate)? Honestly, I think some women might be disappointed if it were the same as for dinner.
If you overextend yourself, you won’t be able to maintain the relationship for long…
And I don’t think it’s quite right to simply offer a large allowance to make sure she won’t turn you down.
What made me happiest was being with someone who showed genuine consideration for me. There are many ways to do that, depending on the person.
I hope you find someone wonderful!
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You sound wonderful!
I was looking at your profile on the Q&A site and thought you seemed great. I might be a little younger than you, though?
I’m in Osaka, but I’ll come running! Dinner can be at a run-down neighborhood izakaya or Torikizoku—either is fine! If it’s a two-hour dinner, I’ll do my best to keep the conversation fun and entertaining!
Oh, and this is the important question: is it okay if I’m a guy? It is, right?! I’ll be waiting for your offer!＼(^o^)／
This is Osaka, who couldn’t resist crossing the boundaries of the system to send you a “You sound wonderful!”
Are you really that attractive? lol
Something I’ve learned from those who came before me is that there’s always a catch when something sounds too good to be true. My imagination is running wild wondering what might be behind it all.
Is there a catch? And what’s the reason for advertising the allowance?
If there isn’t one, then why not? You could even become an answerer, build your brand, and get tons of offers—you might become popular!
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> I give 50,000 or 70,000 yen for the first meeting, dinner only.
Why did you decide on that amount?
And with 50,000 versus 70,000 yen, what makes the difference?
The mystery only deepens.
But there’s no point in asking about something you already feel is working for you. You should give whatever amount you’re comfortable with.
There’s no need to question something that’s going well.
If it isn’t working, maybe you come across as unkempt, or perhaps the conversation just isn’t enjoyable.
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For any ongoing arrangement afterward, they’ll probably expect an allowance at least three to five times what you offer for dinner only (no intimacy). If you’re okay with that, I think it’s fine.
If you get their hopes up and then disappoint them by offering much less than they expected for an adult relationship (intimate), they’ll be extremely disappointed. Good luck.
Marika
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Were there really that many people who felt that way?
Personally, whether it’s just coffee or a meal for the first meeting, I give the transportation allowance specified in the terms: ¥5,000–¥10,000. In most cases, I give ¥10,000.
Has the person asking the question never read the terms?
I believe the allowance after the first meal, as well as the allowance from the second meeting onward, should be decided by each person after discussing it with their partner.
I’m very curious who conducted the questioner’s interview.
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Many of the women I’ve offered dinner-only arrangements to were getting 30,000–45,000 yen from other papas. For an adult relationship (intimate), it was about twice that. The beautiful woman who joined the club, whom I mentioned in an earlier answer, was receiving about the same.
So offering 50,000–70,000 yen for dinner only would put you a little ahead of the competition. Given her age, I don’t think that would be unreasonable.
That said, once you’re dealing with women in that class, the allowance may not really be the deciding factor.
It can take over two months for a woman of that caliber to meet all her new offers, so if you see her three or four times during that period, you may be able to get ahead of the others. If you really want to stand out, meeting her more than 20 times is another option.
There are also papas who spend about ten times the questioner’s allowance in a single day, even for dinner-only dates. You can probably tell by watching how the woman’s attitude changes. You need to decide whether to keep pursuing her or let her go.
With that kind of allowance, the chances of being turned down are definitely extremely low. But whether she genuinely likes you is impossible to know—it depends entirely on the questioner. The more the allowance increases, the more those two things seem to conflict, as is clear from the complaints of the beautiful woman who joined the club. (I knew her before she joined, so there was no exchange of money between us.)
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Thank you for the peaceful question♡
For me, it’s usually 2 for two hours, including transportation. If we go to a second place, I may add another 2, making it 4, but my base rate is 2.
If you hand over 5 or 7 for dinner, you’ll be seen as an easy mark. She’ll keep dragging things out with dinner, and you may never reach an adult relationship (intimate), so I wouldn’t recommend it.
By “dinner for 7,” I mean you’d have to offer 20 per meeting for an adult relationship (intimate) to happen. Of course, I’d be more than happy if more papas (male supporters) offering 20 for an adult relationship (intimate) came along.
That said, even if you give 20 per meeting, special services like Magikarp kisses do not automatically come included (speaking from experience).
The level of service—or rather, how hard the woman tries—is the same whether it’s 10, 20, or 100 per meeting.
In my case, I technically have one who gives 100 per meeting, but our intimate time is actually the shortest, lol.
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Normally, ¥10,000 including transportation for a two-hour meal is fine.
However, if you’re trying to attract a popular woman who has plenty of papas or weed out the blacklisted ones, offering above the going rate isn’t a bad idea either.
For the people I’ve continued seeing, I raise the allowance after we’ve been seeing each other for over a year, so I start with the standard amount.
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