I still haven’t received any offers.
People don’t usually say I’m particularly cute.
About 10 people have added me to their favorites, but would it be too soon to send them a “You seem wonderful” message?
I’d hate for them to think I’m being too eager or only interested in money…
But if I can’t rely on my looks or youth, I also feel like I should be the one to reach out by message…
I’m getting anxious and can’t settle down because I feel like I need to do something.
What do the men here think?
And for the women, what was your mindset when you first started?
I’m sure everyone is busy, but I’d really appreciate your answers.
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Unless there’s something particularly serious, I don’t think people will get the impression described in the question.
If a message came from someone I’d added to my favorites, I’d make her an offer. I don’t currently have anyone in my favorites, though.
I once made an offer through that route, and we’re still seeing each other, so I think it’s worth giving it a try.
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If someone greeted me with “Nice to meet you~” while already wearing a collar or being naked from the waist down, I’d find it hilarious and go along with it, lol.
I mean, if they went that far, I couldn’t just turn them down. I’d respect the guts. I kind of wish I’d get a reverse offer like that.
And if you managed to catch a tuna, I guess that means it wasn’t a pond—it was the open ocean, lol.
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Good morning.
You must have been nervous about the interview—well done, and take some time to relax. Even I still get offers in my late 40s, so at 30, you’re still young and fresh.
When someone says you seem overly focused on money, they mean things like asking for gifts or saying, “Other people give me ○○,” to pressure them into increasing the allowance.
If he’s added you to his favorites, don’t let this opportunity pass you by. Send him a message right away saying, “You’re wonderful.”
Don’t rush, and keep doing your best.
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I generally don’t accept reverse offers from female members, but maybe it’s the change of seasons—or perhaps my already questionable brain got even worse and I lost my judgment—so I decided to give one a try.
“Maybe I’ll catch a crucian carp?”
I casually cast my line, only to hook a bluefin tuna in what was supposed to be a pond. It was far too big to reel in, but I couldn’t exactly cut my own line either, so we’ve just been enjoying this endless tug-of-war.
I’m amazed at the incredible world that’s opened up to me. Since it wouldn’t be fair to just listen to her interesting stories, I’ve been telling her about my former and current top favorites too, and we’re having a great time together.
What I’m trying to say is: maybe you should just blame it on the change of seasons, empty your head, stop overthinking, and take action.
It could turn out well or badly, but not even the gods know which, so I think it’s fine to simply send a like with a reasonably detailed comment.
> If you caught a tuna, then I guess it wasn’t a pond after all—it was the open ocean, lol.
Well, exactly.
I’m a real meathead and genuinely not very bright, so maybe my lack of intelligence affected my optic nerves too—I could only see a pond.
I’m just amazed at how narrow my perspective was...
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First of all, that feeling of panic isn’t helping. Try looking at it from a man’s perspective. Do you think a woman is attractive when she lacks confidence and comes across as desperate to be chosen? In fact, if a woman a man finds wonderful approaches him with that kind of attitude, he may feel a little put off—or at least think, “Hmm, something feels off.” It’s nice when someone opens up about all kinds of worries after you’ve gotten close, but starting out that way feels a bit different.
It’s kind of like meeting someone for the first time and immediately showing up wearing a collar or half-naked. Of course, there are men who like that sort of thing. But is that really flattering to you as a woman? Doesn’t it turn into some strange kind of play? Well, if that’s what you want, I won’t say anything…
At a dating club, men have the upper hand, so it’s hard to make a direct comparison. But if you were simply trying to get a job and marketed yourself by saying, “I’m sorry, I’m not very capable, but please hire me,” you wouldn’t get hired, would you? Instead, even while fully understanding your own shortcomings, you’re supposed to present yourself in the best possible light and promote yourself confidently. Of course, whether making promises you can’t keep is unprofessional is a separate discussion—but that’s a conversation for the next stage. You can worry about that after you’ve received ten offers.
First, let’s have some confidence. You passed the interview, didn’t you? That means the club at least saw potential in you. You may have various strengths and weaknesses, but the club should have placed you in a category where they think you can hold your own. In martial arts, for example, bigger fighters have a huge advantage, but matches are made possible by dividing fighters into weight classes. “Fly” in flyweight literally means a fly. Pretty harsh wording, right? lol. But there are still champions in that division. You, too, are a championship contender in your own class. So please have confidence.
Some men like to brag about how many people they’ve been with, but I get the impression that women sometimes compete over who has the best papas (male supporters). Some people find an ideal supporter after receiving a hundred offers, while others find one in their very first offer after registering. Having ten favorites isn’t a small number. If you can find even one man among them who can provide what you’re looking for, you’ve won, haven’t you?
Keep going! You can gain so much by taking the initiative yourself. Fight♪
@Nakashima
Taro
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There are pros and cons to everything.
Speaking for myself and the male members registered with the club, I think a lot of us are pretty easy to win over, so a thoughtful “You’re lovely” comment might have some effect. It could be useful for increasing the number of offers you receive.
On the other hand, one downside is that some men may get overly eager and go into full-on charging-bull mode from the very first meeting.
Lately, I feel like it’s becoming common for women to comment back when someone adds them as a favorite. In my experience, the women who don’t get a “You’re lovely” comment in return tend to stand out more.
For what it’s worth, I’ve only ever made an offer to one female member who sent me a “You’re lovely” comment. On the other hand, commenting “You’re lovely” on the profile of a male member whose profile is only so-so might increase your chances of getting an offer.
With these points in mind, use “You’re lovely” comments in a planned and strategic way.
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Just as Mr. Maezawa wrote.
You should send likes to appealing profiles as soon as possible. You come across as humble from your message, so I think it’s best to take your time, read the men’s profiles, and include a comment tailored to each one when you send your like.
Sending a like with a message to men you’ve added to your favorites will definitely increase your chances of receiving an offer.
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At first, I didn’t know anything either, so I was nervous.
Now I can see who has added me to their favorites, so if there’s a way to message them, I think it’s worth giving it a try. Even if it doesn’t work out, you’ll probably have fewer regrets knowing you did everything you could rather than not trying at all.
I received an offer from someone I messaged. I was interested in his hobby and wanted to hear more about it.
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Having 10 favorites isn’t really a lot.
If you just sit back and wait in that situation, I don’t think offers will come your way.
If you genuinely want offers, this isn’t the time to worry about seeming too eager.
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> Is it too soon to send her a “You seem wonderful”?
Not at all.
As soon as you see that she’s added you to her favorites, I’d recommend sending a “You seem wonderful” along with a message.
A lot of women probably leave someone in their favorites and then start wondering, “Why did I add him again?” Even if they’re interested at first, they may lose interest as time passes.
Basically, people add someone to their favorites simply because they’re interested, so the most effective time to send a “You seem wonderful” is right after they add you—when they’re most receptive.
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Congratulations on joining!
If you’re feeling restless because you’re anxious, I think it’s better to send him a message.
At least, simply sending a message won’t make you seem money-minded or desperate unless the message itself is really strange.
Why not start by thanking him for adding you to his favorites?
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Since I’m a SALON member, I can’t take that kind of initiative myself. If I were able to, though, I’d make the most of it.
Rather than regretting not getting an offer because you didn’t do what you could, why not try taking action? While you’re wondering what to do, they might receive a message from someone else and make them an offer instead.
The fact that they’ve added you to their favorites means they’re interested in you, so I think this is a real opportunity. It doesn’t guarantee that you’ll receive an offer, but it’s better than doing nothing.
I hope you meet someone wonderful!!
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I’m a female member, Potassium.
First of all, congratulations on joining and getting 10 favorites!
Sending “You seem wonderful” to someone who favorited you is simply a first contact, so I don’t think they’ll see you as overly eager just because you do that.
If getting those favorites made you happy, I recommend sending a message to the men who favorited you to thank them and let them know how you feel.
You’ll probably come across as overly eager or money-focused after meeting in person, or if your profile contains too much information. Since you haven’t received any offers yet, I don’t think you need to worry about it too much.
If you overthink things and miss out on opportunities, it defeats the purpose of joining the club. In my opinion, that would be a real shame.
So please start by sending “You seem wonderful” to the men who favorited you and thanking them.
That’s how I met my papa (a male supporter)!
That’s just my personal opinion.
Good luck!
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