My partner has fallen seriously in love with me. What should I do? He’s in his late 50s.
Could it be because I’ve never brought up money, making him feel that way even more…?
I have plenty of free time, so I reply to his LINE messages right away. Was I the one who gave him the impression that this could become a serious relationship?
I think you’re seeing each other as if you were genuinely in love.
Why not treat them that way? As you spend more time together, it’ll become clear whether it’s real love or not. I think you just need to be careful not to let it cause problems for you in the future.
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“Gachi-koi” has been discussed here before:
https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/14117
I don’t think simply not talking about money and replying instantly on LINE would be enough to make someone develop serious romantic feelings. I’m sure there were other factors involved that made the other person feel that way.
People may have different opinions, but if their feelings are genuine, you should naturally be considerate of them. And when it comes to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I believe you should also provide the appropriate allowance.
If either of those things isn’t satisfactory for you, I think it’s fine to keep brushing them off casually. But if you’re happy with it, then you might as well get them completely hooked.
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What do the other male respondents think?
If you’ve ever come close to genuinely falling for a PJ, I’d love to hear about it. Is Flag Maker the only one?
Personally, I really want to genuinely fall in love with someone...
My ace is currently on the verge of genuinely falling for me, so if I can genuinely fall for my ace too, I’ll finally see the goal of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
But for some reason, I feel emotionally detached. It’s hard to genuinely fall for someone when you’re giving them money.
I do want to be intimate with my ace. She’s incredibly cute. But she isn’t someone I’d fall in love with.
I wonder what kind of girl I could fall in love with... I haven’t met anyone outside papa-katsu whom I’ve genuinely wanted to fall for either.
I’d like to meet the questioner’s papa (a male supporter). I want to know exactly what made them fall for him.
For me, the only person I might genuinely fall for is probably my favorite Type A girl...
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If you become closer to a man from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), it’s only natural to develop genuine feelings to some extent.
If you’re not uncomfortable with it, you can continue the relationship as it is.
In the end, it’s about what you want.
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If this is the same person as in your previous question, then to some extent, it may be unavoidable. I think he gives you that much of an allowance because he likes you enough to want you all to himself.
If you’re having trouble because he’s genuinely falling for you, you could make an effort to be disliked—which sounds strange—or change the way you interact so he doesn’t develop serious feelings. There are probably various options.
That could lead to a lower allowance, or even no allowance at all. But that’s the trade-off for avoiding the trouble of someone genuinely falling for you, so you may need to be prepared to accept that.
Since we’re all different in terms of sensitivity and what we can tolerate, I think the best thing is to explain how you feel clearly in words.
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Considering the other person’s age, aren’t they simply pretending to be genuinely in love?
You can’t really understand the acting or feelings of someone of the opposite sex who’s that much older than you. If the allowance is substantial, I think you might as well both get in too deep.
Was this the high-paying person from the previous question?
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Rather than it being about you, perhaps that’s simply the kind of man he is.
If a papa (a male supporter) offers an extremely generous (well-paying) allowance and wants to keep you exclusively, I think it’s reasonable to accommodate his requests to some extent. If the allowance is truly substantial, I suppose some things may be unavoidable.
If you’re not comfortable with that, though, I think your only option is to end things.
Even if your papa offers an extremely generous allowance, would you still want other papas?
Personally, I don’t have that much free time, and considering the risks of seeing multiple people, I’d be grateful to be kept on a monthly arrangement with a very generous allowance. Of course, only if he’s someone I actually want to date—I wouldn’t want to continue seeing someone if I had to force myself.
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