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Botox → I wouldn’t know—I’ve never had it done. Spec 120 → Since you should lose some muscle, I think cardio would be better than strength training. Running is good because the movement helps you lose muscle. “Just being polite” → Either he’s a clueless papa (a male supporter) who took it literally, or he was testing your reaction and will treat you better next time based on how you responded. I also give him something when he picks me up and drops me off at home, but even if he reacted the way you did this time, I’d still say, “No, thank you for meeting me—I feel so refreshed,” and give it to him. What to do in a situation like this → Say, “I’m already happy that you came to see me and drove me home—thank you ♡,” accept it, and give him a kiss. I think you’ll get another one out of him. I’m pretty easy to win over myself.

When sex feels good, I tend to furrow my brow, and after having good sex frequently, those lines can become harder to smooth out, so I’ve had Botox injected between my eyebrows. Other than that, there’s nothing in particular besides what Kazu and Aya mentioned. Marika

> He stopped giving me an allowance from our next date onward. > Did he not realize I was just being polite? > What should I have done in that situation? If this was through a dating club, the right thing would have been not to accept it. If that papa (a male supporter) is like that, you probably have no complaints about your usual allowance either, so going forward, when he’s only giving you a ride like a taxi, it would be best not to accept anything. I think something more will come back to you eventually. Also, I think when the papa offered 10,000 yen, part of him was hoping you would respond that way. The reason is that men generally don’t take back money once they’ve offered it. Since he did take it back, I think your response was what he had expected. If he had definitely intended to give it to you, he probably would have handed you a 5,000-yen bill instead. It would have been easier for the woman to happily accept it on the spot, and the man couldn’t very well take it back. On the other hand, if this was outside the club—in a relationship with no allowance—then accepting it would also have been the right thing to do, since it was partly meant as a surprise. With a club arrangement, no matter how much you receive at that point, it’s insignificant in the overall picture. You shouldn’t be greedy in situations like that. Unless you’re exceptionally tall, wouldn’t a weight of about your height minus 115 be ideal? Anything more than that probably isn’t healthy for your body either.

As Kazu pointed out, there are four questions, aren’t there? Why did you think there were only two? There are four question marks, too... Question ①: Where besides your jawline do you get Botox? Question ②: You can’t reach a BMI of 120 just by not eating, right? As others have mentioned, “スペ〇〇” becomes stricter the shorter someone is, so since it isn’t based on a ratio, I don’t think it really means much. If anything, I think it would be better to use BMI as a reference. BMI = weight (kg) ÷ (height (m) × height (m)) BMI: 18.50–24.99: Normal weight 17.00–18.49: Slightly underweight Question ③: Didn’t you realize it was just a social nicety? Since you’ve also increased the allowance, I think he probably saw you as humble for saying that was enough, and your evaluation likely went up. But I don’t think he meant it as merely a social nicety, so it probably would have been better to simply say something like, “Thank you.” Question ④: What should I have done in a situation like this? I don’t think there’s much you can do about it now. If you don’t mind risking the relationship, you could try telling him directly, but... I think it would be best to learn from this so you don’t make the same mistake with the next man. P.S. I see—BMI isn’t acceptable either? It’s pretty difficult.

I get Botox in my masseters, and also in my shoulders because I’m hoping it’ll relieve my stiff shoulders and make my neck look even slightly longer. My masseters have improved to the point where I barely need injections anymore, but my shoulders are stubborn. If I don’t get injections every three months, they quickly go back to how they were and the stiffness returns. Also, with the whole “spe○○” way of thinking, I feel that shorter people end up having to lose a lot of weight, which is unhealthy. For example, at 157 cm, I’d end up weighing 37 kg. When I weighed 37 kg in the past, I was extremely thin and weak, and often fainted from anemia, so I wouldn’t recommend it. As for how to respond to a papa (a male supporter), I think it would’ve been best to simply show genuine happiness and say, “Oh, are you really sure!?” It’s unfortunate, but try to use it as a learning experience next time.

I haven’t had Botox injections. Whether you can reach a “size 120” while eating very little and staying reasonably healthy depends on your height. For example, at 155 cm, you’d weigh 35 kg. That would probably seriously damage your health, but there are people like that. At 165 cm, you’d weigh 45 kg. That doesn’t exactly sound healthy either, though I suppose such people may exist. In any case, if you consumed only the calories necessary to stay alive and didn’t exercise, it seems like you might be able to achieve it. A social nicety is something you say to keep relationships running smoothly. In this case, it seems to be helping maintain a good relationship with your papa, so whether he’s aware of it or not shouldn’t matter. What exactly are you trying to ask? (笑) As for what you should have done in that situation, I think you should have called a taxi yourself instead of relying on your papa. There were four questions, weren’t there? After number one comes number two, then number three, and then number four. Just an impression, but I’m glad the questioner was another member of the dating club. 追加. A way to get your papa to play taxi and receive ¥10,000: When your papa held out ¥10,000, you should have said, “Thank you!” and accepted it, then added, “Then let me thank you properly,” unzipped his pants, and done him a favor. If it were me, I’d keep driving, have sex somewhere, and give him ¥50,000. See? That makes ¥60,000! 追加2. BMI also ignores muscle mass, so I think body-fat percentage is a better measure. The readings can vary considerably depending on the brand and type of body-composition scale, as well as when you take the measurement. So if you’re comparing results, you should measure under consistent conditions—such as using the same scale, at the same time, and in the same way.