I’d like to ask a man out on a date, but I’m not sure how. What should I message him?
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The other day, I went out for a meal with a man who had made me an offer. We had a really enjoyable conversation, and he never pressured me afterward, so I had a lovely time. After I got home, I thanked him for the dinner date via LINE, and after chatting a little, he stopped replying. I’d like to see him again, but I’m wondering what kind of LINE message I should send.
Ladies, do you usually ask your papa (a male supporter) out on dates? Men, what’s the best way for a woman to ask you out?
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When did you send that LINE message—around what time?
I recently had dinner dates for a while with someone who went to bed at 7 p.m. He would get home around 3 a.m. and message me, but our schedules didn’t line up because of my work, so we said goodbye.
Could he possibly be like that?
For now, send him a message during the day with a few dates you’re available and say you’d be happy to meet.
If he still doesn’t reply, he’s probably not interested in meeting and may have already blocked you. Move on and look for someone else.
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I’d been giving her 10 per meeting, but a girl who had been gradually fading out messaged me:
“Would you be up for an adult relationship for 5 per meeting?”
Needless to say, I was even more put off.
It’s hard to know how to make the invitation, isn’t it?
Probably the best approach is for you to send her three dates when you’re available to meet:
“I’m free on these three days. Would you like to meet?”
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Here are some specific examples of messages to send when asking for a second date:
“Hope you’re doing well! Let’s meet up in September.”
“I’d like to see you sometime next week—on the 3rd, 5th, or 8th. How does your schedule look, Paper Airplane?”
“I’m free next Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday!”
“I’m available next week except Thursday.”
“It would be nice to see you again next week.”
“Let me know again when you’re free.”
That’s the kind of thing you can send on LINE.
Some women suddenly start sending messages like these the day after meeting, while others continue sending dozens of messages from that day onward.
If she sends a lot of messages, it shows that she’s interested, making it easier for the man to say, “How about this day?”
From the woman’s side, even if the man doesn’t reply, sending lots of messages leaves a better impression. On the day you meet, women are usually still excited, so after sending a thank-you message, they’ll often send dozens—or even a hundred—messages.
Sending that many messages clearly conveys that you’d like to continue seeing him, so it’s important to send lots of LINE messages, even if they’re about anything. If she doesn’t send anything, the man may assume she wasn’t that interested and might stop replying altogether.
It feels great when she’s that excited. If she seems cold, though, it can feel a little lonely and unsatisfying.
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I’m curious about the conversation that followed the thank-you LINE after the date. Didn’t either of you say anything that could have led naturally to a next date?
For example:
“I’d like to try that horse sashimi you mentioned♡ (Come on, you know what I’m getting at, right? lol)”
“You said you were interested in ○○-style art, and I heard there’s going to be a △△ exhibition at ○○, right? (There, there—show some interest!)”
If there was anything like that, I think the first step would be for one of you to pick up on it. If there wasn’t, then either the other person simply isn’t interested, or they are interested but terrible at making a move.
In the former case, it might be best to test the waters politely with something like, “Thank you for the other day. I’d like to see you again—could you let me know when you’re available?” It may be even better to suggest specific dates, such as, “How about the evening of Thursday the 1st or Friday the 2nd next week?”
In the latter case—if the other person seems timid or inept—you could ask, “I’d like to see you again. Would you like to meet?” and get them to say, “I want to see you.” That could be fun in its own way: taking the upper hand after a chaotic opening and kicking off a queen-style dynamic. For someone who enjoys that sort of thing, it sounds like an irresistible development—or at least a promising way to start.
But in your case, since you also seem a little timid, I feel it would be better not to try to take the upper hand and instead proceed safely with the first approach.
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I think you should just send a LINE message like, “Hi, [Name]♡ Are you free sometime next week??” without overthinking it.
Even if you don’t get a reply, don’t let it get you down—just move on and focus on meeting someone new.
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When can we meet next?
It may seem almost too simple, but I can’t think of anything better. From your LINE exchange, it does kind of seem like he may not be interested. That said, there are quite a few men who won’t make the first move unless the woman invites them, so why not try asking him first?
If he doesn’t reply, you’ll know he has no intention of meeting.
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