Would it be okay if I could only meet my papa once or twice a month? I’m a student and so busy with my studies that I don’t have time for a part-time job. However, even with my student loan, I’m barely making ends meet, so I’m considering papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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Since I don’t have much free time, I might only be able to meet him this often. Would that make him feel lonely? I think I could exchange two or three LINE messages a day. I’m worried that I wouldn’t be able to join him on trips, shopping outings, or long dates…
That’s perfectly fine.
I also mainly see women on a regular, once-a-month basis.
I often date women who work or are students and meet with one to three papas about one to three times a month.
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Your question seems perfectly fine as it is!
In my experience, there aren’t that many people who want to meet every week. More commonly, they meet once every two weeks to once a month.
If you find someone you’d like to see regularly, I think it should be fine as long as you explain your circumstances upfront.
Also, even if you receive an allowance through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), it’s important to remember that papa-katsu is only meant to be a supplementary source of support, and to continue taking your studies, part-time job, and other responsibilities seriously as before.
I hope you find a wonderful papa (a male supporter).
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Even meeting once a month is fine. Once every two months is okay too.
However, if you only have one or two possible days a month—or just a few days here and there—and your papa is busy, it could end up being two or three months before you can meet.
From the papa’s perspective, being a college student is probably the one time in life when you have seemingly unlimited time—like using a Seishun 18 Ticket. So you need to explain your situation in a way that makes sense, such as attending a vocational school or medical school.
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I think it should be fine.
More important than how many times you meet is having a reliable schedule. If you decide to meet twice a month, for example, you’ll both settle into a rhythm.
It’s also important to keep things going between meetings—namely, whether you can communicate well with your papa (a male supporter) over LINE. Good luck!
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I’m Potassium, a female member.
That’s totally fine!
I’m not a student—I’m an office worker—but I meet my papa (a male supporter) about twice a month.
I imagine students have all kinds of exams and other challenges, so I hope you find a good papa who will support you.
It might be a good idea to let them know how often you’d like to meet once you’ve joined and start receiving offers.
This may be unsolicited advice, but papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) lets you meet all kinds of people, so it can really broaden your horizons in ways that go beyond the money. Honestly, I think it can also be a valuable way to learn about society before starting your job search. (That’s my perspective as a career woman… though it may be different if you’re aiming for a professional career or planning to start your own business.)
There are also times when I wish I’d done it while I was still a student. However, one thing I really want you to be careful about is that being young and attractive may help you succeed in papa-katsu, but it won’t be of much use when it comes to your work and earning money after you enter the workforce.
And above all, I think it’s important not to let it distort your sense of money.
If you do join, I sincerely hope you meet someone wonderful.
That’s just my personal opinion and my hope for you.
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> Is it okay if I can only meet my papa once or twice a month?
I feel like more women see one man about twice a month. The next most common arrangement is probably meeting weekly, so I think you’ll be completely fine.
> Would the other person feel lonely because of that?
It depends on the person.
If he’s the type who wants to meet every week, he may say he’d like to see you more often. But in that case, even if meeting twice a month is the most you can manage, I feel the arrangement may actually last longer because he likes you.
If he was originally thinking of meeting about twice a month, there shouldn’t be any problem at all.
> I think I can send two or three LINE messages a day.
LINE can be tricky. Even if you intend to exchange only two or three messages, the conversation may not end easily, and you could end up having to spend all your time replying instead of studying. I think it would be better to make it clear from the start that you’re busy studying and can only use LINE for scheduling meetings.
> I’m worried that I won’t be able to join him on trips, shopping trips, or long dates…
I don’t think it’s a big problem if you can’t travel together. As for shopping, men generally go along with what the woman wants, so I don’t think either of those is a major issue.
Not that many people want long dates, either, so as long as you can manage dates of a normal length, I think you’ll be fine.
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College students like you are the most common type, so there’s absolutely nothing to worry about.
Meeting about twice a month is probably the norm. If you want to focus on one papa (a male supporter) and earn a generous (well-paying) income, you’ll need to see him around three times a month to build a closer relationship.
But if you’re looking for a relaxed, transactional relationship, once a month is perfectly fine.
You don’t need to message much on LINE. On average, people don’t even exchange messages once a day. Just try to reply promptly when making date plans; casual chatting is optional, and it’s fine to ignore it if you’re not in the mood.
You’re more likely to get offers with a natural, refined look—preferably dark hair and little to no nail art, or something understated.
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