I asked the question below. I’ll be meeting six women from here on—Women A, B, and C.

1. Read through the woman’s profile. 2. Think about what topics to bring up based on it. 3. Anticipate how she might respond, and think about how you’ll reply. 4. Also consider the possibility that everything in her profile—and everything she says—is a bluff, and think about how to respond so she doesn’t feel guilty about lying. After that, you just have to wing it. But honestly, most women are liars at first—not in a bad way.

I’m Potassium, a female member. I’m a member who went from Type B to Type C and then back to Type B. Also, regarding offers, speaking as someone with a bit of an insecurity about my appearance: Like the other respondents, I’d be happy if you could approach things with respect for the other person, remembering that your own world isn’t everything, and making an effort to learn about theirs. If it seems like she’s only looking for a money-based relationship, you could simply give her the allowance, treat her to dinner, and wrap things up right away. She’d probably be happy and say, “Is it really okay for such a short meeting!?” (I have a friend who’s like that, lol.) Of course, being told “You’re cute” or “You’re beautiful” is nice, as long as it’s said an appropriate number of times, lol. Also, if a Type C woman turns you down (assuming she’s acting in good faith), she probably feels, “I’m sorry I couldn’t give you the response you were hoping for after you went to the trouble of spending your time and money on me.” So I’d appreciate it if you could handle it gracefully by saying something like, “Thank you for the enjoyable time. I hope we get another chance,” without pressing the matter. Someone who once made me an offer responded that way when I turned him down. I felt a little less guilty because of it. ※I couldn’t handle the guilt and switched back to Type B, though, lol. That’s the kind of approach someone like me would appreciate. But before anything else, please pay attention to your appearance and smell, and make sure you come across as clean and well-groomed. (This is the most important thing—the Mehrabian rule.) Half the impression is decided the moment you meet someone! Good luck. Just my personal opinion.

It’s important to remember and respect the basic fact that the other person lives in a world completely different from your own… but that’s probably just idealism. Lately, I’ve come to think that whether you can enjoy a good papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) life is mostly a matter of luck—luck in who you meet. Whether it turns out to be enjoyable depends on your compatibility with the other person, and sometimes it just won’t work no matter how hard you try. I think it’s best to keep things light and simply consider yourself lucky if you happen to meet a good girl. That kind of attitude makes you seem more relaxed, which women find attractive too.

As others have already said, the key is how you treat her, so let me offer a different perspective. > “Are there any points I should be careful about?” The fact that you’re thinking that way already means you’re missing the point. papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is about giving each other breathing room. It’s okay if things don’t work out. It’s okay if some of your time ends up being wasted. Just don’t forget to be grateful for what the woman gives you. Even if things go badly, it isn’t money wasted. Use it as a learning experience for next time. Don’t focus so much on the outcome. Approach it with an open mind, and make sure you give the woman that same sense of ease. Above all, it’s important to appreciate the happiness of receiving the comfort and emotional breathing room women share with you. If they can feel that your actions come from genuine happiness, they’re sure to gain something from the experience too.

■Type C ・Know that it’s proper etiquette to always invite her to a room that day. ・Tell her the allowance amount before inviting her to the room. ・Once she agrees to an adult relationship (intimate), either smoothly hand over the allowance at the dinner venue or, at the latest, give it to her after entering the room and before she showers. ・If possible, walk separately while moving from dinner to the hotel. If it would take more than seven minutes on foot, take a taxi without hesitation. ・Remember that women have the right to say no. Even if she turns you down, don’t become moody—part ways with a smile. ■Type B ・Strictly keep the first dinner date to within two hours. ・If you want to invite her to an adult relationship (intimate) on the next date, be sure to tell her the allowance amount during the first date. ・If a date becomes an adult relationship (intimate) from the second date onward, give her the allowance after entering the room and before she showers. That’s more or less the idea. I hear papas living in cloud-cuckoo land say things like, “If you pay the allowance upfront, it feels like sex work and ruins the mood.” But the man’s mood frankly doesn’t matter at all. If you’re a gentleman, put ladies first and prioritize only the mood from the woman’s perspective. If the person asking this question were doing mama-katsu and a female beast appeared and they were about to have sex, wouldn’t she be thinking: “This is going to ruin the mood, darling♡” If he didn’t hand over the allowance upfront, she wouldn’t get aroused, right? She wouldn’t be able to enthusiastically move her hips, right? That’s the point. If you’re saying, “No way—I can still give the beast a Magikarp kiss and easily go for round two even without getting the allowance upfront!!” Then I sincerely apologize.

With a B-level person, don’t ask for an adult relationship (intimate) on the first day. With a C-level person, if she isn’t put off by you, you need to ask about an adult relationship (intimate) from the very first meeting. Be clear about the amount, too, and specify whether transportation is included. If she turns you down, don’t get angry—just leave quietly. There won’t be a second meeting with a C-level person, so move on to the next person. The same goes for D.

I can’t think of anything else to keep in mind besides treating her with respect as an individual.