Do you think I shouldn’t sign up if I’m afraid of the risk of STIs?

If you’re worried about the risk of STIs, do you think it’s better not to sign up? If the risk of STIs scares you, one option is to avoid being intimate with anyone until you’re married. It might be worth thinking it over carefully.

If you’re afraid of the risk of STIs, do you think it’s better not to sign up? I do want the money, but I’m even more afraid of STIs. I don’t want to make the people I care about sad. ☆ While you’re in your 20s, try working in various jobs (full-time, of course) and build up enough skills to support yourself. If you keep thinking you can rely on men, you’ll continue to struggle throughout your life. ☆ The answer to “Will he always use a condom?” is no. Some guys say they will, but take it off when it’s time. ☆ If you have a boyfriend, it’s better not to join. The same goes for dating apps—they’re an even harsher environment. ☆ The answer to “Will I definitely get offers?” is no. Some men are fickle, so these arrangements rarely last long.

It’s probably best not to sign up, but assuming you do: ① Choose a papa who isn’t seeing multiple partners. However, that can be extremely difficult, so— ② Choose a papa who is seeing women who each have only one papa. You can figure out how to identify them by looking at the answers. If he puts a lot of emphasis on the allowance, clearly explains the terms upfront, and offers payment in advance in a way that women really like, then the more experienced she is with these clubs, the more likely she is to appreciate that arrangement—which makes it extremely unlikely that she has only one papa. In that case, you should be especially cautious about STIs. ③ Then test whether you can meet him whenever you want, without having to coordinate his schedule. If you have to arrange dates in advance, it’s fair to assume he’s also seeing women who have multiple papas. If he had only one, he’d be available whenever you wanted to meet. ④ Once you know that he’s seeing only women who have one papa—and the questioner also believes they have only one papa—the risk drops considerably. In extreme terms, none of the women would become infected unless the papa himself did. You may not have to worry much at all.

As Kazu-san mentioned, I think it really depends on “what kind of relationship you want.” If you decide to register, set your relationship type to A or B and start with dinner or something similar, taking the time to see whether the other person is trustworthy. If you later decide to become intimate, explain that you want to avoid infections, and only proceed with someone who understands, respects, and takes appropriate precautions. That should help reduce the risk. Of course, there’s still always a possibility. So if you’re scared, you might want to stick to dinner only—or consider a well-paying job at a girls’ bar or cabaret club instead of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).

Based on my understanding after checking the data, it seems the risk can be reduced considerably by following these three basic rules: 1. Kissing should be limited to the lips and just the tip of the tongue. 2. Oral sex should be a “courtesy blowjob” (either keep it brief, or avoid taking it fully and spend the time licking the shaft and using your hands). 3. For sex, using a condom is essential. In addition: 4. Keep your partners as few and as consistent as possible. Choose people who also keep their partners limited and consistent. (Four or five is too many.) 5. If you want to do anything more intimate than points 1–3 above, limit that partner to one person. Don’t see multiple people concurrently; during any transition period, leave some time between partners and get tested. 6. Get tested regularly—frequency matters more than the time interval. Once every ten encounters is a good guideline, or at most once every twenty. That’s probably about right. I’ve also heard, as Fuu mentioned, about washing with soap or using mouthwash. In the adult entertainment industry, gargling and rinsing with Isodine is apparently standard practice, but I don’t think it’s very effective, since germs can remain on the mucous membranes and be transmitted through bodily fluids. Fluids are still produced after washing. I’ve read in a doctor’s column that urinating immediately afterward to flush the urethra, or women rinsing internally, may be more effective—but I remember thinking, “Isn’t that assuming you’re already healthy?” In any case, I believe the key is to avoid mucous-membrane contact altogether. There’s also a classic joke about producing even more fluid yourself to wash away the other person’s secretions. I’ve actually confirmed one case where a woman kept spitting until everything became completely soaked, leaving the sheets stiff once it dried, yet she still didn’t become infected despite what was objectively a pretty extreme situation. However, I think that was a very unusual case. I’ll mention it just as a possible defensive measure in case circumstances somehow force you to give a full blowjob. No matter how many precautions you take, the risk can never be reduced to zero. I think it’s important to recognize that there is a certain level of risk and manage it yourself. With that mindset, I do believe the risk is ultimately not that high—in other words, the returns are sufficient to make the risk worthwhile. Taro

Not just with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)—if your boyfriend went to sex workers or fooled around outside the relationship, you’d probably feel the same way, wouldn’t you? You should do some research, starting with “Dr. Google.” Even then, if you’re still afraid of STIs, the only way to avoid them seems to be for both partners to have sex exclusively with each other. Other than HIV/AIDS, most STIs can be almost completely cured if detected early. Whether you consider them scary or not depends on the person. Unlike the sex industry, where you’re dealing with unspecified numbers of people, with papa-katsu you can set your own rules and control the risks. For example, if I were a papa-katsu girl (lol): - Condoms are mandatory. With a papa who seems sexually active, I’d even use a condom for oral sex. - Aim for my target amount with no more than three papas (lol). Keep it within a network of four people total, including my boyfriend. Choose papas who don’t seem to fool around much, don’t visit sex workers, and are unpopular with women—like FUU, for example, lol. - Know a hospital specializing in STIs that you can visit on weekends and holidays. ↑ I already have one lined up that can give me the fastest test results and prescribe medication immediately. - Wash thoroughly with soap before and after sex. - Gargle before and after using a mouthwash prescribed by a doctor.

Today, I bought another ¥19,250 STI testing kit from Yoboukai. Since Yoboukai doesn’t offer a kit that tests for trichomoniasis, I use both GME, which does, and Yoboukai. I get tested at least twice a month, and sometimes as many as four times in busier months. Since it’s impossible to prevent STIs perfectly, I’m especially careful not to pass anything on to the most important person in my life—my ace. The best way to do that would be not to be intimate with my ace at all, but that has its limits, so I’ve started gradually distancing myself from women who are seeing multiple papas. My goal for this year is to narrow my number of partners down to five or fewer (not happening).

I agree. In your case, I don’t think you should sign up. I’m scared of STIs too, so I take reasonable precautions, but I don’t believe they can prevent everything completely.

I think it depends on what kind of relationship you have. Just joining a dating club doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll contract an STI. That said, it’s not impossible either, so if you’re very worried about it, it may be better to avoid it.