Kida, the representative, would like to answer as well.
First of all, I’m the one who created this rule and introduced it to everyone.
And I’m also the one who has been enforcing it loosely, without setting any penalties.
I’m sorry.
I hope—and I believe—that by the time people in their 30s join a dating club ten years from now, it will be perfectly normal to meet someone and hand them their transportation allowance shortly afterward, without giving it much thought.
That’s why we explain the advance-payment system during the membership interview. I feel that, especially for beginners, it’s becoming accepted for them to simply meet their date and hand over the money fairly soon afterward without questioning it.
Though I suppose the real issue is, “Don’t just say you feel that way—conduct a survey.”
Still, we’re hoping it will gradually become established, like consumption tax, so if you feel like it, please try paying in advance as well.
When I hear about wonderful, mature responses like Ms. Saito♪’s, I find myself thinking, “If only this club could consist entirely of people like that, I’d love to get rid of all these rules altogether.”
The opinions shared by the esteemed Papa-katsu gentleman were also incredibly insightful. They were so deeply considered that I’ve started to feel embarrassed that someone as foolish as me is the one making the rules.
I’m Saito, a columnist♪
Just like the male members, I also pay afterward (sorry).
In my case, I usually invite them to a room, so while I’m taking a shower, I leave the allowance—including transportation costs—near my bag.
If she isn’t my type, I let her eat her fill at dinner, give her ¥20,000, arrange a separate car, and send her home within about an hour. The moment she refuses to come to the room, I know she isn’t interested in me, so I end the relationship there.
(I sometimes think, “Maybe next time…” but basically, I don’t like people who are slow to make decisions.)
I sometimes wonder if the club’s concern with this issue isn’t really about complaints over paying afterward. More precisely, perhaps they’re focusing on cases where “things turned sour or a problem arose during the arrangement, and then the woman was given a low amount afterward.”
The woman had to spend an unpleasant amount of time.
She probably feels so upset that, after putting up with it, she’d almost like to demand extra money…
And then she’s given ¥5,000… Seriously?
What if the rule were:
“It’s okay to pay afterward as long as you give at least ¥10,000.”
Would that work? Would women still feel safer being paid upfront…?
Conclusion:
Either way is fine with me. If paying upfront is the rule, I’ll follow it and enjoy myself. That’s about it.
