From the responses, it sounds like many PJ women pursue papa-katsu through romantic feelings—is that right?
(I associate papa-katsu with gifts, and there really do seem to be a lot of them.)
It seems that people who are genuinely involved romantically with each other, as well as those whose papa genuinely feels that they like him, tend to receive more gifts.
So even if you’re not truly romantically invested, acting in a way that makes him feel that way probably makes a papa happier—and naturally makes him want to give you gifts, too.
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The owner of a famous hostess club once said:
“Many hostesses say, ‘I don’t use romantic tactics—I treat my customers like friends.’ But if they were really friends, you could invite them over to your home, right? In the end, as long as men have ulterior motives, every sales approach is based on romance.”
Ultimately, the key is how you channel a man’s ulterior motives into something positive.
Maybe the same applies to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), too.
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I’m not really sure what “catching feelings” means, so I don’t think I’m doing that.
I’m not the type to fall for someone after meeting them just once. I think you gradually start liking someone as you spend more time seeing each other, don’t you?
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Judging from the answers, does it seem like most PJs are in it for the romance?
I’m with Akari on this one! I guess, lol.
Rather than it being about romance, isn’t it more like this?
“Since I’m treated well, I also treat the men well in return.”
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That’s a pretty consistent argument, lol.
It really does sound like Chisako Takashima is talking!
Why do you want to frame everything as romance, though? lol
Still, it’s clear that this is the answer the questioner is comfortable with, lol.
A gift is basically an expression of goodwill from the person giving it, isn’t it?
If you insist on turning it into an equal exchange, obligation, or entitlement, then just draw up a contract and have both parties sign it.
There might be people willing to go along with that.
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Isn’t the best kind of relationship one where you can both feel comfortable even without exchanging gifts?!
You don’t seem to be forcing yourself, and it sounds like you only date people you genuinely feel could be the right fit for you. I think that’s the ideal.
Enjoying the romantic side can be fun too, but it’s probably not something everyone can pull off. I’m pretty blunt and straightforward like you, too, but I have no intention of changing that about myself. I don’t want to change who I am just for the sake of getting gifts—I’ll buy whatever I want myself.
Though I suppose saying that is exactly what makes me seem unappealing.
It might be fun to meet a papa who gets completely hooked on you through this arrangement at least once! But these things come down to fate, after all. In the meantime, why not come back to Universe Club?!
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As Akari said, I think it simply comes down to this: “If you treat someone well, they may treat you well in return.” Of course, some men don’t express their appreciation through gifts, so I think it also depends on the individual.
It’s a shame to lump everything together as romance and stop thinking critically.
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I tend to fall for people easily, so my relationships are more romance-oriented.
I also forgot to mention that he bought me a ring and a golf set. While I was fussing about buying them myself, he went ahead and paid with his card.
Papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) isn’t all about gifts.
He isn’t a papa (a male supporter), but I do sometimes ask him for advice about work.
Advice from business owners and successful people is incredibly valuable. Thank you, always. m(_ _)m
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It’s less about romance and more about being able to say and do the things that make a man happy.
Whatever form it takes, you’re still in a relationship, so you should treat the other person with sincerity. If he treats you well, you should value and care for him in return.
That’s how I see it.
Akari
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