I have a good papa (a male supporter) I've been seeing for about a year and a half.

It’s understandable to feel sad, especially after finally getting a monthly arrangement. If you feel like you’re losing out, I think it would be best to arrange to meet twice a month while also looking for another papa (a male supporter). Alternatively, you could say, “I need a little more money, so I’m going to get a part-time job and won’t be able to meet as often.”

If things keep getting vague, I think it might be better to go back to a pay-per-meeting arrangement (´；ω；｀) Like Aya said, being seen as a “good value” girl can feel like they’re taking you lightly, so it doesn’t feel good, does it? (∩´﹏`∩)

At a club, “I want to see you” generally means an allowance is involved—either giving or receiving one. Since this will be your fourth meeting, I think it would be best to ask the man what he has in mind and have an honest conversation when you see him for the third time. He should understand that a monthly arrangement doesn’t mean you can meet an unlimited number of times. Perhaps the reason things went that way on your third meeting is that you were happy he didn’t seem overly focused on money, so you ended up taking advantage of his kindness a little. As the number of meetings increases from three to four, you probably realize that you’ll want an allowance and that he’ll need to give you one. I think it’s fine to lean on him a little while having a proper conversation. Unless you discuss it, he won’t become an ideal supporter, and there’s no way you’ll be able to build a good, enjoyable relationship going forward. For example, if it were a monthly parking space, renting two spaces would cost twice as much. With a monthly arrangement at a club, you’re essentially paying for eight spaces—or four meetings—so six to ten spaces, or three to five meetings, may still be within the acceptable range. In your case, two meetings is very few, so if he likes you enough to want to see you more often, it wouldn’t be strange to double the monthly amount or switch back to pay-per-meeting once the number of meetings increases. If two meetings a month is 100,000 yen, then four meetings would clearly be 200,000 yen. The same applies even if you never specifically agreed on the number of meetings: if it’s 100,000 yen, then four meetings goes beyond the acceptable range. In your case, three meetings is the limit. Also, from the man’s perspective, paying 100,000 yen for three meetings may mean you’re someone he wouldn’t mind ending things with at any time. So I think you should have a proper conversation and find out whether that’s actually how he feels.

I don’t think he’s an ideal supporter. That said, I think it was your mistake to tell him which days you were available after you’d already met twice. Once you’ve given someone an inch, it can be hard to push back. Why not look for another papa, and once you have something lined up, tell your current papa that simply increasing the number of meetings isn’t fair?

From this papa’s perspective, you’re seen as a “good girl” who’s eager to meet. Put less kindly, you’re someone who won’t mind even if he gradually lowers the allowance—a good deal for him. That may be why things have continued, but even if you keep putting up with it, the relationship will eventually fall apart. It would be safer to start reducing how often you meet now. Try to reschedule as soon as possible, using a reason such as, “Something came up at work.” (Also, I wouldn’t count on getting more money. A papa who says the monthly allowance is 100,000 yen isn’t going to suddenly raise it to 150,000 or 200,000 for no reason...)

I’m not sure what makes the papa who’s making you uncomfortable a good papa, but you must be handling him without showing how unpleasant you feel. I think you should start looking for another papa. If you’re treating someone like that so properly, I’m sure you’ll find someone better.