Is it true that your best years are while men still fawn over you?
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I’m terrified of getting older.
A woman who used to be a model—and whom I knew in the past—said that she was looking forward to growing older.
I couldn’t understand it.
But I need to make money while men still fawn over me, so I have to do everything I can.
Do you understand what I mean, at least somewhat? I’m absolutely terrified.
Once men and women pass 40, they become neither “men” nor “women,” but simply “human beings.”
When women over 40 start saying that getting older is hard, it’s because they’re suddenly expected to make efforts they had previously been excused from “because they were women.” All the support they once received disappears, and the “investments they made in their beauty” end up feeling wasted.
Of course, there are women who are still treated as women after 40, but they’re a minority. As age increases, the number of people who are seen as simply human beings increases as well.
I think when female models say they’re looking forward to getting older, it’s because they’re facing themselves not as women, but as human beings.
Cherry blossoms are at their most beautiful from full bloom until the petals fall, but even after the blossoms are gone, their green leaves in summer provide us with shade and a place to rest.
Being treated as a woman may be the peak of one’s beauty, but I don’t think being beautiful is what makes someone happy or gives them a reason to exist.
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Youth is wonderful, and being cute is a real strength.
But even as you grow older, there are still days filled with excitement. If you work hard and live sincerely when you’re young, before you know it, you can become someone you’re proud of.
I’m still learning and working to make up for the things I lack, but I’m happy—and having fun—because I’ve naturally connected with some truly amazing people.
I believe you’ll have a bright future too if you live each moment with sincerity.
Akari
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If that’s how you feel, why not really commit to an anti-aging beauty routine? If you start taking preventive measures now, you won’t have to fear getting older.
You should also join a gym and do strength training. Building plenty of muscle will help you stay youthful.
If you’re afraid of losing your youth, you just have to put in the effort.
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That’s how I felt when I was a teenager too!
Now, though, I’m actually looking forward to getting older (๑>◡<๑)
Once you start working and can take a step back to look around, it gives you motivation to become someone like your “admired senior” ⸜(*ˊᗜˋ*)⸝
Back then, it wasn’t exactly being doted on, but people did find it unusual that we were born in the Heisei era〜＼(^^)／
P.S. Nana… I’ll be waiting for you(´；ω；｀)
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There’s nothing beautiful about desperately trying to make as much money as possible through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) while you’re young, as if now is your only chance.
I remember J mentioning that the person who worked hardest at losing weight made a bet with the mama of the club involving a one-night pass. Even now, past 50, she’s still adored and doted on.
She must be a wonderful woman.
Marika
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Maybe it’s because you think youth is everything.
Then why do I still get offers even though I’m in my late 30s? Why do you think that is?
Because I have something beyond youth.
What will you do when you turn 30? Are you going to remain a parasite clinging to men forever?
Please enrich who you are on the inside. In your 20s, you can do anything. Raise your social standing. Don’t live only for the present—live this entire life to the fullest. You’re still young, so you can do it.
Today is Monday. Let’s start changing from today.
Something a little upsetting happened. I’ll be gone for a while. I really wish people wouldn’t pursue such half-hearted relationships. Until next time…
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If your work is based on your youth, then maybe that’s true.
I understand being afraid of aging—your skin, for example… But if getting older alone is enough for people to stop doting on you, then perhaps that says more about the kind of people and relationships involved.
I think there are many things that matter more than that. Reaching a certain age brings insights and perspectives you couldn’t have had before. I don’t think being doted on by men is everything, and there are other ways to earn money, too.
I believe some things can only be understood after having all kinds of experiences, so I don’t think there’s any need to fixate solely on age.
There are beautiful people at every age, and I find them incredibly attractive. I hope I can become someone like that!
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You need to work hard too, while you’re still getting attention and can earn money.
I think you might want to change your perspective on what it means to work hard.
Sorry to bring up something personal, but I’ve actually had better luck with money as I’ve gotten older than I did when I was young.
Instead of desperately trying to make money while people are still fawning over you, focus on figuring out how to get money flowing in the future—and work hard at that.
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> I’m afraid of getting older.
I think it’s pretty normal to dislike aging.
As you get older:
- Your physical strength declines.
- Your memory gets worse.
- You take longer to recover from injuries.
- You can even break a bone just by walking.
- You might get injured from doing a little exercise.
- Your resistance to illness decreases.
- You move further away from good health.
People who look forward to getting older have probably changed their perspective and try to focus on the positive aspects rather than the negative ones.
It’s not as though only good things happen, nor is it as though only bad things happen. That’s generally how life is.
That said, dwelling on the negative can take a mental toll. So I think it’s better to focus on the positive side of things.
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To me, being fawned over means being in a situation where people pay attention to me, even if I’m not exactly sure why. Being popular, on the other hand, means being able to turn that vague something into one of my strengths and make good use of it.
That said, not everyone gets fawned over, so I think it must mean you have some kind of unique quality—and that’s a good thing.
I feel the same way about myself, both in business and in this community. I believe people only pay attention to me because I have something distinctive, so I work hard every day to turn that into a genuine ability of my own.
When I’m invited out to eat, my meal is covered, I get to hear interesting stories, and I’m introduced to jobs and people. If I work hard, my compensation may increase, and I get taken out to have fun, where my expenses are covered again. I’m also introduced to more jobs and people. I tell myself that this kind of treatment probably won’t last past my thirties, so I’m working hard every day with a sense of urgency.
I do my best at work to give back more than I receive.
I also give gifts to the business owners who have helped me on their birthdays.
Whether you make an effort or become complacent might change your life—or it might not. But I believe it will make a difference, so I’ve decided to keep working hard.
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Questions like this come up from time to time.
There are certainly men who believe a woman’s youth is everything, so I can understand the questioner’s fear to some extent. However, I can’t help feeling that women who worry about this are just using that fear as an excuse not to do what they can now.
You’re being showered with attention right now, aren’t you? That’s wonderful! Your looks may fade with time, but by then, as long as people are drawn to you for your personality and character, there’s no problem—haha. Though I’m not sure being showered with attention is necessarily a good thing.
Either way, your 20s are the morning of your life, and you’ve got plenty to do before lunchtime! You don’t have time to worry about what comes after lunch.
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Some of that is true to a certain extent, but it only applies to youth, looks, and physical stamina.
Apart from those things, the more years you live, the more experience you gain, and the more polished you become in every way.
For both men and women, when it comes to youth and looks alone, people in their 20s are hard to beat. But as you enter your 30s and 40s, there are many areas where you can surpass them. Life also brings increasing experience, confidence, and composure with age, so you become more and more attractive as a person.
As that happens, people naturally start gravitating toward you, and you become more popular with the opposite sex.
That’s when you could say your real popularity—and perhaps your life itself—truly begins.
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If this were a world where you could only compete on looks, getting older would bring nothing but decline. But if you make it a combined contest of looks and substance, age can sometimes work in your favor. People get older. That’s a physical law you can’t change. The question is what strategy you choose in light of that.
A short life spent striving in the world of appearances can be beautiful too—like a fish in its prime. Though I’m only saying that as a spectator. If I were involved, I’d run from a battle with no future. What are you doing? Are you stupid?
I understand how you feel. I think I know that fear even better than you do. That’s why I’m writing this. Looks are important, but polish what’s inside and build on it. Realize that you can turn an unfortunate situation into a source of strength. I may be writing this in a joking, self-deprecating way, but I’m serious.
Taro
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