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May 5, 2022 11:46
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She probably just wasn’t that into you. Women are better at pretending than you might think.
👨 Male
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> Is she the type of woman who doesn’t usually keep in touch much in the first place?
> She might be, or perhaps she’s just holding back.
Either way, it may be best to compromise a little, get through the third meeting, and then talk about how often you’d like to stay in touch.
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
> After our first meeting, she was quick to send me a thank-you message on LINE.
Where did you go for the meal when you met for the second time?
If it wasn’t really the kind of place worth thanking you for—or if she thought, “You’re only interested in my body, aren’t you?”—then she may not have felt the need to send a thank-you message.
If you skipped the meal the second time and went straight to a hotel, she may not have found anything to thank you for.
Even if you’re thinking, “But I gave her an allowance, didn’t I?” that’s simply the man’s perspective.
From the woman’s point of view, it wouldn’t be surprising if she saw the relationship as an equal one. Of course, if she still thanked you, I’d assume she was just a sociable person.
I think it’s best to keep in mind that it can be perfectly normal not to receive a thank-you message, since the relationship is supposed to be an equal one.
> I occasionally messaged her on LINE to stay in touch until we met for the second time. Is she just the type of woman who doesn’t communicate much?
I don’t think there’s any need to keep in touch just for the sake of it. Confirming that she’ll show up as scheduled should be enough.
Once you become closer, you may end up chatting about other things, but I think it’s better not to expect that from the start and simply keep your messages focused on arranging the date.
If she was also distant when you were together, she may not be interested in you. However, if she seemed like a good person while you were together, even though she didn’t message you otherwise, I don’t think there’s a problem.
Other
It’s only been two meetings, so it’s hard to say.
Some people are good at keeping in touch, while others may simply be busy with their private lives.
Either way, I’d like to at least receive a “Thank you” message after parting ways following the second meeting.
Maybe she wasn’t all that impressed with me.｡ﾟ(ﾟ´Д｀ﾟ)ﾟ｡
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m upfront with women that I see multiple partners once a month and don’t message very often, so I don’t receive that many messages.
Women are probably also trying to gauge what kind of relationship a man wants. If you’re not someone who messages often, she may be trying to be considerate and waiting for you to reach out.
Other
Women may have different approaches, but even if their usual LINE reply frequency varies, every woman I’ve been seeing has always sent me a thank-you message soon after we met.
It may simply be your partner’s style not to keep in touch much. Or, as someone mentioned in a previous question, she may have found another generous (well-paying) papa (a male supporter), causing you to drop down her list of priorities.
It’s also possible that she only puts on a good front while you’re together because she doesn’t know what the papa side might say if she treated you poorly in person.
Judging from her attitude, it doesn’t seem like she’d be particularly bothered if you cut things off with her. If you have good physical chemistry and want to keep seeing her, she’ll probably continue meeting you for a while.
Other
That alone isn’t enough to say.
I think it would be fine to exchange a few LINE messages to find a time to meet at least one more time, then see how often he contacts you and so on.
That said, it doesn’t sound like you have a deep relationship that’s more than papa-katsu but less than being a couple.
I have some people I’m deeply involved with, while others I just meet briefly once a month. Those arrangements continue because we’re both satisfied with them.
Marika
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
If a woman has taken the plunge and joined the club, there shouldn’t be anyone who barely keeps in touch, right?
From her perspective, nothing was fulfilling, and she didn’t enjoy herself. That’s all there is to it.
As long as you meet her expectations overall, she’ll see potential and actively message you—more than men do, in fact.