I’d like to hear everyone’s thoughts on whether I should keep waiting for a reply.
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We’ve only met once, and after I contacted him to arrange our next date and let him know that the restaurant reservation had been completed, I haven’t heard anything for over two weeks. Should I assume there’s a good chance he’s cut me off?
I’m not expecting an immediate reply, but if the date is just going to remain open, I’m wondering whether I should give up, cancel the restaurant, and make other plans instead.
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If the next date has already been arranged, she may simply see any other messages as a hassle.
Especially if you’ve only met once, you probably haven’t built much of a relationship yet. It’s best to assume that she doesn’t want to exchange messages beyond coordinating the date and time.
That said, I understand why you’d feel anxious if you’ve messaged her and haven’t received a reply. In general, I’d suggest sending a confirmation message the morning before the date and seeing whether she replies by that evening.
If you still haven’t heard back by then, it’s reasonable to assume something has come up and contact the establishment to cancel.
However, sometimes she may reply on the morning of the date with something like, “Everything’s fine.”
So it’s probably best to always have a Plan B in mind. For example, choose a stylish restaurant that doesn’t require a reservation. Though if you’re experienced, you probably already have a place or two that immediately come to mind without anyone having to tell you.
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Even if there’s no reply—or one of you forgets—one of you will probably reach out within two or three days. If neither of you can bring yourself to message the other, that says something about the relationship.
If it’s your first time meeting, you shouldn’t run out of things to talk about. If a woman likes you, it’s normal for her to send you lots of messages. In fact, even if she isn’t particularly interested, it’s still natural for a woman to send plenty of messages.
If her replies are making you frustrated, you’re better off ending the relationship.
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I do one final confirmation at a time when canceling won’t inconvenience the restaurant. If there’s no response, I cancel everything.
You don’t have to exchange a ton of messages, but if they’re ignoring everything, it’s probably already a lost cause.
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I’m curious about the wording:
“After only meeting once, I contacted him to arrange the date for our next meeting and to let him know the reservation had been completed.”
I’m wondering which of these situations applies:
① It took more than two weeks to arrange the date, and the message confirming the reservation has been ignored for over two weeks
(the date itself has already been set).
② The date-arrangement messages have been ignored for over two weeks, but the person asking the question went ahead and made a reservation anyway
(the date hasn’t even been confirmed yet).
If it’s ①, as some of the other commenters have said, I think it would be fine to send a reminder and check in.
If it’s ②, I don’t understand why they made the reservation in the first place…
Either way, if I were the man, I’d probably give up.
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If you’ve scheduled something two weeks in advance, I think it’s fine to send a reminder email as the date gets closer.
Personally, if they didn’t reply to that email, I’d cancel all future plans, let them know I’d canceled them, and end the relationship.
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So, you informed them that the booking was confirmed, but they haven’t replied to acknowledge it?
If so, why not follow up with them once to make sure?
They may already think they’ve acknowledged it.
If they continue ignoring you for several days after that, there’s a good chance they’ve cut you off.
Also, if you’re communicating via LINE, you may have been blocked, so it might be worth checking that too.
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Are you worried he’ll cut you off even though the date and venue for your next meeting have already been decided?
If the conversation has naturally ended and there’s nothing that really requires a reply, I don’t think you need to worry about it…
If it’s bothering you, try sending something like, “How have you been?” or another message phrased as a question.
Since you’ve already made plans to meet, there’s no need to rush. I think it would be fine to check in about a week or three days beforehand with something like, “Are we still good for our plans?”
P.S. If the man is married, I feel it’s best for him to message first out of consideration. I’d also appreciate it if he could let me know something simple like, “This time of day works for me.”
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