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Apr 16, 2022 09:15
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There does seem to be such a thing as compatibility, but I feel like a lot of people call it “good chemistry” when the other person simply reacts in a way that suits them. So I don’t think you need to worry about it too much.
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Age: 50s
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I guess it comes down to compatibility?
What matters most to me is whether the sex feels good and leaves me satisfied.
If she really puts effort into the adult relationship (intimate) and I’m satisfied, that’s what counts. If I’m not satisfied, I’ll end up looking for another woman.
No matter how much I’m attracted to her appearance, I won’t want to pay if the level of satisfaction doesn’t match what she’s asking.
Other
It matters a lot.
The reason my current favorite papa is number one isn’t just because he’s kind, we share the same interests, and it’s easy to arrange our schedules. More than anything, I think it’s because our physical chemistry is the best I’ve ever experienced.
When I read other people’s answers, I sometimes worry that I’m the only one who feels this way, but I also feel that my papa is very fond of me too.
Marika
Other
I do think sexual compatibility is important.
If the guy you were going to keep seeing had a cock only about the size of your thumb, you’d want him to finish quickly, right?
I hope you meet someone whose cock is so good that you’d lose control the moment he put it in.
Other
Good morning!
When it comes to an adult relationship (intimate) with someone you’re meeting for the first time, you really have to feel things out.
Some people, no matter what, just aren’t a good match, while with others you think, “I’ve never felt this good before!” (lol)
One man says, “I’m not looking for someone whose technique is already at a professional level,” while another says, “I don’t want a virgin.”
Everyone has different preferences and different chemistry, so I realized that dating clubs wanting to bring in women with all kinds of personalities and experiences is probably because there’s a need for that. (⑅•ᴗ•⑅)◜..°♡
Chemistry is important, isn’t it? ♪
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Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
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Because women—at least the ones who’ve been long-term girlfriends of mine—were “developed” over the course of more than ten years, I end up thinking, “Wow, we’re really compatible.”
But men judge compatibility on the first day or after just a few meetings, so they may think, “We’re incompatible—that’s why it took over ten years to develop her.”
What feels “amazing” to a woman can feel “terrible” from the man’s perspective, too.
Women don’t immediately reach the point where they want to do it again at their absolute best—or even pay money for it, as men do—so receiving an allowance and doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) are possible.
Still, men also enjoy the process of getting to that point, so it’s not something they dislike. In fact, it can be fun.
Paper Airplane
P.S.
Because she’s someone you like and care about, and because you’ve made it that far together, it’s an ideal relationship between a man and a woman. When it feels comfortable—including that physical compatibility—the man is truly happy.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
Physical compatibility is important, but what counts as “compatibility” varies from man to man.
Personally, I don’t place that much importance on how a woman feels physically, but I do care a lot about her reactions and whether she seems to be enjoying herself.
That said, physical compatibility isn’t the only factor in deciding whether to continue. I think most men make an overall judgment based on things like appearance and personality as well.
Other
That’s probably the main reason papa-katsu papas do it, right?
I mean, that seems obvious…
Whether they continue seeing someone probably depends on other factors too, though.
Akari
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Age: Private
👨 Male
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You wrote, “Pretty much every man I meet through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan),” so I don’t understand why you’re still asking this question.
If nearly all of them say it, that simply shows how important physical compatibility is.
Some women do realize this, but I feel they’re in the minority.
> I think physical compatibility develops over time, though.
“Compatibility” refers to something that doesn’t change later on. Feelings may develop over time, though.