I run a small company.
My annual income is over ¥30 million, but
my wife manages the money,
and I only get ¥50,000 a month in spending money.
I’m considering joining the Standard class.
Would ¥50,000 in spending money be enough to arrange an adult relationship once a month?
I know it’s a pathetic question.
If he really owns and runs a company, there should be plenty of ways for him to access money beyond his allowance.
To begin with, I don’t understand how a business owner manages work-related social obligations with only ¥50,000 in spending money.
The simplest solution would probably be to split the payments for his salary—or, more accurately, his executive compensation—between two bank accounts. Since he’s the president, all he’d have to do is tell the office manager and accounting department to send the company’s payments, including employee salaries, to multiple accounts.
Of course, it’s fairly common for only the president to use this arrangement.
That way, he could freely spend the executive compensation deposited into the other account.
There are probably various other ways to do it as well.
However, if his claimed annual income is actually a lie and the only true part is that he has just ¥50,000 in spending money, then it would be difficult. In that case, I think you should give up.
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If you’re self-employed and earning ¥30 million a year as an executive, there must be plenty of ways to leave more money in your own hands.
Keep a secret stash from your wife. Surely you have someone trustworthy in accounting or administration at the company who can be your right-hand person（笑）—you could ask them to discreetly transfer money into this account, or get a card for business entertainment expenses.
It would be such a waste to work so hard only to become nothing more than an ATM at home（笑）. You only live once.
In the early stages, you’ll need at least ¥200,000–¥300,000 for the annual membership fee plus several offer fees. For one person on a monthly arrangement, you’ll need at least ¥100,000 per month for ongoing expenses.
And that’s the bare minimum. You’ll quickly find that one person isn’t enough, so prepare more.
Good luck!
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As everyone has said, it may be difficult under the current circumstances.
Is it possible that your wife handles—or even controls—the company’s accounting as well? Also, do you file your own tax returns?
If not, the quickest option would be to set up another company and pay yourself a salary from it.
If the business is profitable enough to pay you ¥30 million in salary, I think it should be possible to split it between two companies.
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When you factor in meals, hotels, allowance, and everything else, I think it would be unrealistic.
For reference, my monthly spending money when I was a college student was ¥50,000. Even then, it was pretty tight. That was about 30 years ago.
Marika
P.S. After reading the answers from all the business owners, I hope the person asking this question will work even harder, earn some extra discretionary money, and be able to pursue papa-katsu.
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You may have your reasons, but with an annual income of 30 million yen, an allowance of only 50,000 yen means something is fundamentally wrong.
That said, there’s no need to rush into joining. Please get two tickets to *Miss Saigon*, being performed at the Imperial Theatre in August. Naturally, they should be S seats. Ticket lotteries are currently open, but if you have connections, try getting them through that route.
Then, as practice for when you join, look around and invite the woman who catches your eye the most. Needless to say, if No. 1 isn’t available, go with No. 2. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with inviting your wife instead. In that case, have dinner at the French restaurant in the Imperial Hotel. Unfortunately, it isn’t exceptionally delicious, and it can hardly be called reasonable, but in Joe’s experience, the Imperial Hotel is effective when making a declaration of a raise—not negotiating, mind you! Give it a try.
Oh, and if you go with your wife, be careful: asking for a receipt could very well ruin the whole plan!
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I’m a poor guy in the dating club scene, but frankly, given your current situation, it’s impossible.
You’ll need to ask whoever manages your finances to increase your allowance quite a bit more（笑）
Good luck...
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Rather than wondering whether you can manage your activities on ¥50,000 a month, wouldn’t it be better to think about how to turn ¥500,000 into ¥5 million? If you genuinely believe your allowance is the only money you can freely spend, I think that’s the biggest issue. Isn’t it sad if ¥50,000 is the limit of your ability to raise personal funds each month?
Since it’s your own income and dividends, there must be ways for you to use the money as you see fit. You may also be able to treat part of your activity expenses as business expenses. You could manage your money through multiple accounts, or even open an account overseas. That would probably make your wife’s motivation to manage everything drop dramatically, lol. With your connections and knowledge as a business owner, I’m sure you could earn enough for your papa-katsu expenses through spot consulting on platforms like VisasQ.
I’m sure there are plenty of male club members in less advantageous positions, with lower incomes than yours, who still enjoy their club activities. If you shift your perspective a little, you’ll probably start seeing all kinds of options. Good luck!
It’s me.
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Considering the annual membership fee, the setting fee when making an offer, transportation costs when meeting a woman, and expenses like meals and hotel rooms on top of the allowance, I think ¥50,000 a month would be tough.
If ¥50,000 is your entertainment budget, you’d probably only be able to meet a woman once every few months. It seems it would be quite difficult to find someone who’d be okay with that.
You might be able to meet someone once a month through a dating site or app.
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An adult relationship (intimate) itself is possible once a month for 50,000 yen per meeting, but considering the cost of the hotel and meals, I’d need about 30,000 yen more.
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You’d probably be better off letting your wife call the shots.
¥50,000 is simply too much for you—there are all kinds of reasons it won’t work.
You should take on a side job without telling your wife.
People here may write that allowances start at ¥50,000, but this is a world where you’re looking at ¥100,000 per meeting. Unless you make money from a side job, you won’t be able to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) at all.
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