Dating clubs… They’re a world I’ve always admired.
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However, as a married salaryman with children earning ¥12 million a year, I feel like they may be out of my reach.
I have at most around ¥200,000 a month to spend freely. With that, I don’t think I could possibly have the kind of relationship that would satisfy a woman.
Is it really difficult to enjoy dating clubs unless you’re earning tens of millions of yen a year?
I’m sure there are many different arrangements, but roughly how much should I be prepared to spend each month to have an average relationship without leaving the woman disappointed?
If I dip into my savings, I could probably manage around ¥500,000 a month with some effort.
I spend just under ¥200,000 a month.
So, for the kind of arrangement I have, that’s more than enough to stay active.
It also depends on how often you want to see women and how deep a relationship you’re looking for.
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It’s definitely possible, depending on your style.
If you expect an adult relationship (intimate) every time you meet, you may not be able to enjoy it to the fullest.
Some women don’t want to meet very often each month, while others want to meet frequently but don’t want an adult relationship (intimate) every time. If you find someone whose style matches yours, I think you can enjoy the arrangement within those boundaries.
These days, the women you can view are limited depending on your membership class. With Platinum or Black, you can see everyone, so it may be your best option for finding someone who matches both your preferences and your style.
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I have a girl I only meet about once a month, and we’ve been seeing each other for around a year.
We have dinner and an adult relationship (intimate). The dinner costs 20,000–30,000 yen, the hotel costs 10,000 yen, and her allowance is 100,000 yen.
I also give her presents for her birthday, Christmas, and White Day, but even so, I think it stays well within an average of 200,000 yen a month.
Her allowance doesn’t change even when she’s on her period and we can’t have an adult relationship. If that happened on consecutive dates, I’d probably end things, but so far it hasn’t. I feel like she probably avoids scheduling those days to some extent.
Even when we don’t meet, we exchange LINE messages and occasionally talk on the phone.
I suppose it depends on what kind of relationship both parties want, but I think you can definitely continue with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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I also had to spend money on each offer at first, until I met someone good. But if you settle on one person and maintain a long-term relationship, I think you’ll be just fine (^○^)
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As Rin-san said, there may be some expenses during the first month, but once you find a regular partner, I think it’s possible to continue the relationship by being creative with things like dining out and hotels.
Rather than spending too much on meals and hotels, I think it’s more sustainable to prioritize the allowance.
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I wasn’t sure about the registration fee and offer fee for men, so I just checked. For the Gold Class, the membership fee is ¥50,000 and the offer fee is ¥30,000—so offering to meet one woman would cost ¥80,000.
So it sounds like the first month is the only time it costs a considerable amount.
I’m not sure what kind of relationship you’re looking for, but if you’re hoping for a long-term relationship with one woman, I think ¥200,000 should be enough to join the club.
Of course, it also depends on the woman. Some may be satisfied meeting once a month, while others may be looking for someone they can enjoy spending time with while also having other generous (well-paying) papas.
After that, I think it’s best to discuss the details with a woman you like and decide together.
As far as I know, there aren’t any fixed arrangements like that. But if a man told me, “I’d like to see you within this monthly budget,” I’d want the two of us to discuss how often we could meet and work out the details.
I’d want us to date in a way that’s comfortable for both of us.
I hope you meet a wonderful woman!
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Let’s take a look at Flag Maker’s column.
If you’re on the Standard or Gold plan and focus on just one person, I think you could manage on ¥200,000 a month without dipping into your savings.
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