I've been wondering whether it's okay to keep asking questions, but I’m swallowing my embarrassment and asking everyone here for advice m(_ _)m

I’m pretty used to having men throw stones at me from a distance. No one has ever said anything to my face or picked a fight with me in public, but I’ve had men badmouth me, try to sabotage me, and even tell women around them things like, “She’s a bad person,” or, “Don’t make eye contact with her—just looking at her will get you pregnant.” It’s been happening since I was in high school, so I’m used to it by now. I know women’s jealousy can be intense, but men’s jealousy is even worse. Awawa, the best thing you can do is ignore idiots. Or, like me, let them feel superior while you smile and look up at them from below.＾＾

It’s probably that other women think you’re deliberately acting flustered to look cute. I don’t think you should worry too much about things you can’t control. And there’s nothing good that can come from dating someone rude enough to say to your face, “You’re not Japanese, are you?” Just think of it as a good thing that you were able to say goodbye the moment you met. No one is perfect, so don’t let this become a trauma. The best thing you can do is erase unpleasant experiences from your memory.

I watched your video. You have a beautiful, clear voice—almost like a TV announcer’s. Your expressive intonation and crisp, easy-to-understand diction make you sound almost like a voice actress, and I’m honestly envious of how naturally fluent you are. I don’t think that kind of voice and way of speaking could be achieved just by putting on a cutesy act. I imagine people say things like that because most of them can’t do it themselves and have no idea how you’re able to speak that way.

1. I’ve been traumatized ever since I was younger because women would dislike me for acting cutesy or putting on a fake voice! I’ve never actually heard your voice, but I’m sure it’s simply naturally cute. I’ve started getting nervous about meeting him… The way I’m all flustered… I get nervous before meeting someone for the first time too. Don’t worry, I’m sure you’ll get comfortable soon. There really are men who say such hurtful things. 2. “You’re not Japanese, are you?!” What did he mean by saying, “You’re not Japanese”? I’ve never seen your face, but perhaps you have distinctively defined Asian features? Try to erase that trauma by meeting a wonderful papa (a male supporter) as you go through more offers. It might also help to build up your self-esteem—but mine is pretty low too. I don’t have any friends from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) either… Neither do I~♪ If you don’t mind someone around her forties, feel free to connect with me through the question box~

I watched the video before answering. 1. I do think your voice is on the higher side, but I didn’t get the impression that you were putting on a cutesy act or forcing it. There are women with even higher voices or more anime-like voices, and even then, I don’t think many men necessarily see that as a negative. On the women’s side, too, I feel that the people who say unpleasant things just leave a particularly strong impression, but probably aren’t that common overall. 2. As for this point, I couldn’t really tell just from watching the video either. I’ve used apps myself, and based on what the girls I met told me, I got the impression that there were a lot of pretty strange men on them. So it’s also possible that the men you happened to meet were simply unusual, and I don’t think you need to worry too much about it.

Maybe they’re just being envied because they’re cute and appeal more to men. If you’re a respectable member of the student council, don’t let the actions of a tiny minority of crazy people bother you. Male members can view it by searching for “Awawa.”

I thought I’d found Awawa’s profile a while ago, so I went back and had a look. 1. Based on the videos, I didn’t think you were acting cutesy or putting on a fake voice. I wouldn’t say you seemed overly serious, but I can kind of see what you mean. As for seeming “put-on,” I suppose some people might see it that way, but there are plenty of people who come across as much more affected or have much higher-pitched voices, so I don’t think you need to worry about it. 2. Do you mean that your facial features are strong? I didn’t think they were, though.

I’m putting myself forward as a friend of AwaAwa!! 1. I think jealousy is probably the main reason women dislike other women. Men and women have different tastes, so even if other women call someone cutesy or fake, I think men may see her as cute. As for acting cutesy or putting on a cute voice… I honestly envy that. My voice isn’t cute, and I’m not the cutesy type either. All people ever tell me is that I seem intimidating or scary. 2. “Not Japanese”… I’m not really sure what that means. I’ve never met AwaAwa, so I don’t know what she looks like and can’t really answer, but I think it’s best to erase rude people from your memory. By the way, you don’t normally dress like your profile picture, do you? I haven’t heard anyone called “cutesy” like that in ages—not since becoming an adult!

Update Even when I was told, “You’re not Japanese, are you?!,” my hair was black and I was wearing black circle lenses. So I honestly don’t understand what they meant. Sorry, everyone, and thank you in advance m(_ _)m I added to my comment based on Mac’s advice (*^^*) So the photo was referring to my profile! The person on the left looked like someone else, so I had several photos taken from the right side instead, lol. I added a full-body shot to my post photos☆ Thank you! Replies Rin → Thank you! Please be my friend (crying). I’ve thought about trying to fix my high-pitched voice, but it’s my natural voice, so I can’t change it now that I’m 32（笑） I’m not Western, and I was told the same thing twice, so it’s been bothering me…… I usually wear pink or light blue, but I’ve already given away the dress in my icon (*^^*) I think my style is more clean and refined now♪ Kazu → I’m not sure how the video was edited, but thank you for watching it! Maybe my features are quite strong, or perhaps I messed up my makeup（笑） Seattle → Thank you! I almost started foaming at the mouth(´；ω；｀) Mac → Thank you for watching the video! I’m relieved that, from a man’s perspective, I didn’t come across as acting cutesy. I’ll try changing the photos and comments m(_ _)m Early → Thank you. My voice gets higher when I’m nervous, even in the video, so that was the highest it gets! I ended up not using the app after all, but I guess it really is hard to meet decent people there(>_<) Nana → Please be my friend (crying). I look forward to learning from you as a senior! My features should be fairly plain(>_<) I wouldn’t care if it happened once, but hearing it twice leaves a bit of a lingering sting… Paper Airplane → Was I speaking fluently? I’m glad to hear that! I was extremely nervous while recording the video… If I didn’t seem like I was acting cutesy to everyone, that gives me confidence! Thank you! Dai → Thank you. You’re right! Maybe it’s best to forget about people who go out of their way to yell things that they know will hurt someone. Makeo → Thank you! It’s amazing that you already seem to have reached enlightenment! Ideally, I’d like to get along with every woman, but no matter what I do, there’s a certain 10% of people I just can’t see eye to eye with(>_<) I’ll give up（笑） Yurine → Thank you! I treat men and women the same way, and I’ve also done a little people-watching. But no matter what I did, some people’s impression of me never changed, so I hope I can meet people I’m compatible with, both personally and professionally. It’s true—I froze when they suddenly started yelling at me… I’ll try my best to forget about it!