Tips Mar 17, 2022 19:15

My boyfriend told me I seem experienced in bed.

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I’m a 25-year-old woman who, having had no romantic experience, gave my virginity to someone I met on universe and has been doing club activities for over three years since then. I’ve only had two boyfriends in the past, and I’ve never had a one-night stand with a younger man (outside the club). So when I had just started dating my boyfriend, I would get so nervous during even a kiss that I’d freeze up, and he said that was really cute. However, when we actually became intimate, I tried stimulating his chest, my voice was loud, and I may have reacted a little too enthusiastically—in other words, I tried too hard—and he told me I seemed experienced. My first ex-boyfriend had said the same thing, so I suppose it’s true. He had treated me very carefully until we became intimate for the first time, so he also seemed shocked when he said I seemed experienced… I started wondering if this is the price I’m paying for repeatedly doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), even though I’ve always taken romance seriously. (That said, it gave me more financial freedom and made me start taking better care of my appearance, so I don’t regret doing papa-katsu at all.) I won’t tell him about my papa-katsu and will take it to my grave. Still, I wonder if men can really see through these things. When I think back to how he used to call me cute and praise me for being inexperienced at romance, it makes me feel sad. This may be slightly off-topic, but I’m worried about how to avoid being seen as experienced and how I should conduct myself from here on.
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This is so sweet and youthful—I love it! I’d be honest and say, “I actually like sexy things and have been looking into them!” ✩.*˚ It’s embarrassing at first, but once things progress, you start wanting to do all sorts of things for them, right? There’s absolutely no need to mention your club activities! (^^)! Wishing you both lots of happiness~
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Once you’re a little older—around your early thirties—men will definitely appreciate women who take the initiative more. If you aim for a boyfriend who’s a bit older, you might not have any trouble even now. Marika
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Haha, that was a little mistake, wasn’t it? lol > I’ve had times when I tried a little too hard—like focusing on her breasts, being too vocal, or reacting a bit too enthusiastically—and was told, “You’re pretty experienced, aren’t you?” I think you didn’t need to try so hard. That’s only something you do at the beginning, after all… lol Once you’ve been with your boyfriend for a long time, though, you’ll have to put in some effort. lol
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Is being experienced really a bad thing? LOL Personally, I’d actually be happy about it. I’d love for you to show me all kinds of fun and pleasure. When a man tells a woman, “You’re pretty experienced,” it feels condescending and cold, and honestly, it irritates me. If you’re experienced and good in bed, don’t pretend you’re not. That would be such a waste. Whether you’re experienced or not, I’m firmly in the camp that believes being your authentic self is best. It’s me.
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> I’m wondering how I should conduct myself from here on. I think it’s easy for someone experienced to pretend they’re inexperienced. All you have to do is avoid taking the initiative. Wait for the other person to tell you what to do before acting. Don’t do anything unless they ask. That’s all there is to it. I don’t think how responsive you are matters that much. If they point that out, you can just say, “I guess I’m a little sensitive,” and that should probably be enough.
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