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Mar 15, 2022 02:51
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It’s not that we ended things after a fight, but it wasn’t a clean breakup either.
How can I forget them?
Even when I’m focused on my hobbies or work, I find myself thinking about them from time to time.
Is finding someone new the only way these wounds will heal?
6 answers
👨 Male
Universe member
You can’t forget!
Even if new encounters or an absorbing job help you escape temporarily, you’ll never truly forget. That’s why you need to act carefully so things don’t reach that point. No matter where or how you meet someone, try to be kind to them…
Other
If you don’t want to forget him, then you don’t have to.
The more you tell yourself, “I need to forget him,” the harder it is to get him out of your head…
Isn’t it amazing that you were able to meet someone so wonderful?
If you keep yourself busy or meet someone else who’s great, you’ll naturally spend less time thinking about him.
It’s wonderful that you got to meet someone that special!
Other
I get over it once I start seeing someone new.
Also, dating multiple people is probably better for avoiding situations like that. I realize this may sound like a terrible thing to say from a man’s perspective, but in my case, it keeps me from getting too invested in any one woman. As a result, I can treat each woman more kindly, focus better on work, and increase their allowance. So far, I feel it works well for everyone involved.
A~Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月1程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
Overwriting your arrangements can be pretty convenient.
I recently ended things with one woman myself, and right afterward, I sometimes wondered if I’d acted too hastily.
But I ended up getting close to a woman I approached afterward, so now I feel it worked out for the best.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを!
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中!
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです!
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Men’s minds seem to be occupied almost 100% by women, while women’s minds are almost entirely taken up by things other than men.
That’s why men end up clinging to the past.
Women aren’t paying it much mind, so unless there’s a lot they dislike about a man, they generally won’t be eager to break up. All you can do is make an effort to behave in a way that won’t make them feel that way. Otherwise, you’ll just keep repeating the same cycle.
Other
Yes, it’ll all blow over once you have another great encounter. So keep sending out offers!
Until then, it’s perfectly fine to wallow for as long as you need. Think back on the time you spent together and your conversations, and run through scenarios like, “I should’ve done this differently.” Don’t fight it—just keep thinking about it. When your emotions build up, go ahead and send them a LINE message or something, even though you won’t get a reply. Eventually, you’ll feel like you’ve gotten it out of your system. On average, it probably takes about 49 days to calm down. It’s kind of like a mourning ritual.
Taro