There are very few registered women in my area, and many of the women who interest me live far away, so I consulted the management team. They advised me, “One option is to start with a letter date, discuss when you might be able to meet, and proceed from there.”
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However, even if I receive someone’s contact information through a letter date, there’s still a chance it could turn into a dead end (where we never manage to get in touch), which has me feeling a little hesitant...
Are there any papas or women who use letter dates? I’d really appreciate hearing your opinions.
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This happened with a recent offer.
For some reason, the woman asked to start with a “letter date.” We exchanged messages on LINE, but she had scheduling issues, so we agreed to arrange the date sometime after February.
Then I sent her a message on LINE the other day, and she still hasn’t even read it.
At this point, I figure it’s probably for the best that I didn’t meet someone like that. At least I only lost half the amount I could have.
So, I’d say letter dates have both pros and cons.
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If you’re far apart, letter dating is smooth, and you can meet without any problems.
I think communicating directly is quicker and less hassle than going through a setup. You don’t have to wait for replies through the staff or worry about being considerate during the process.
It’s also much less stressful since you don’t need to trouble the staff.
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If you’re a man in your 30s living outside a major city and only looking for a pen-pal-style arrangement, you might as well just use a regular dating app.
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I’ve ghostwritten messages for women several times.
One of my regulars was asked by a papa from far away to do a “letter date,” so she came to me for advice, and I negotiated a higher allowance for her, haha.
It was something like:
“Copy and paste this exactly into LINE. Send it at [X] o’clock tomorrow.”
I managed to get the allowance raised from 70,000 to 90,000 yen, though I couldn’t get it up to 100,000.
This was a girl I was giving 120,000 yen to.
As for one of my failures, I once acted thoughtlessly because I didn’t realize that women get no benefit unless you send something like an Amazon gift card.
Everything is a learning experience, so I’d suggest that you start by trying a letter date. You just have to keep moving forward, learning from both your successes and failures.
I may even hold the Universe record for the number of times I’ve been rejected by women in the past.
The saving grace was that I had countless failures before joining Universe.
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It’s not that none of the women get back to me.
Also, perhaps everyone has misunderstood: if you’re going to do a letter date, you’re expected to meet later and give an allowance. There’s no allowance for casual conversation, so they quickly stop responding. If you just want to chat, please use an app.
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Lately, I’ve been using letter dates for almost every offer, and I’ve actually managed to meet around 90% of the women.
First, you need to understand that no allowance is paid to the woman at the letter-date stage.
So, as the staff advised, the key to avoiding a wasted opportunity is to use it strictly to coordinate a time when you can meet.
Advanced users can make it work by chatting about various things to build rapport.
But if an average guy tries that, I think the woman will probably cut him off.
I’ve never tried it personally, but if you want to chat about random things, get to know each other, and then meet, one option is to send the allowance upfront via LINE Pay or something similar.
I’ve even made offers to women who lived far away and ended up meeting them six months later. Good luck.
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