Is there really a difference in the kind of men who approach college students versus working women?
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I’ve been doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for a little while now, and I’m currently in my third year of working. Recently, the quality of the men offering to meet me has improved dramatically.
From when I was in college through about my second year of working, I only met men with a lot of negative qualities, so I assumed that was normal. But lately, I’ve started receiving offers from men who seem to have better personalities. From talking to them, it sounds like they’re all used to dating working women in their everyday lives. Many of them are also great conversationalists. I’ve even reached the point where I don’t really feel like meeting men I started seeing back when I was a student.
I’m surprised by how different it is. What do you think is behind this? Do men’s preferences for students versus working women differ depending on their personality and character? I’m curious.
I’m Dai, a male member.
Whether they’re college students or working women, I don’t want to make an offer to women who act as though they have the whole world figured out.
I’m sure they’ve formed their opinions after spending a long time in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but I think it’s too soon for them to assume they understand everything.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
In a way, do women grow as they go from being students to working adults?
They learn the rules of society, interact with many adults besides their parents, occasionally have unreasonable things said to them by customers, get reprimanded by their bosses, and so on.
Maybe all of that makes them more comfortable dealing with adults—and they gradually get used to men in the papa generation, too.
That’s just something I’ve been wondering.
Personally, I rarely make an offer to a student unless she has exactly the look I’m into. I usually make offers to working women instead.
That’s just my personal opinion, though.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
My papa (a male supporter) told me, “I’ve made offers to college students before, but they just talked about things like academic rankings, so it was an incredibly unproductive use of my time.”
I think this papa (a male supporter) is looking for a woman he can see long-term, so he seems to prefer mature working women over immature students. But I wonder how other people feel about it.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
Maybe it’s just your imagination. There is certainly a difference between students and working adults, but what matters more is whether she strikes me as an attractive woman.
My guess is that the person asking this question started looking better after entering the workforce—maybe she lost weight or became more polished. That does happen sometimes. Staff comments often describe women that way.
When an attractive guy comes along at that point, though, I suppose they cut off the men they met in the beginning. Maybe they became more polished thanks to those men...
Honestly, I’d probably do the same if I were in that position, but I wouldn’t say it to other people. I think that’s what having some sense means. And no, I’m not talking about garbage.
In short, she may have gained the vibe of a mature, attractive woman through her experience with a dating club, but inside, she’s still just a kid. That’s what I’m saying.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
As Mac said, I’m into working women, especially those between 25 and 35. So while Mac and I have different preferences and approach things differently with women, I feel like there isn’t actually that much difference between us. I think it’s probably just a coincidence.
More importantly, I dislike immature brats who refer to people as having “quality,” regardless of whether they’re working adults. Calling someone “high quality” simply because they’re compatible with you strikes me as incredibly arrogant.
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I’m in my 60s and feeling a little lost.
Is that really the case?
If you’re married and don’t have a lifestyle that involves entertaining clients at night, weekday evenings and weekends are off the table for dates. Naturally, you’ll end up making more offers to college students and others with flexible schedules.
That’s all there is to it.
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