If I make an offer through a letter date, where the setting fee is half price, will women think negatively of me—like, “What a cheapskate!” “Are you broke?” or “Exchanging emails directly sounds like a hassle”?
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I’d like to try a letter date, but I’m hesitating to make an offer because I’m worried it might leave a bad impression.
I’m Kamihikōki, a male member.
If that’s how you feel, you’re probably better off quitting.
Since it’s all done in writing, the differences are bound to show clearly.
Personally, I think letter dating offers plenty of benefits for both women and the staff, and compared with a regular setup, it’s actually expensive enough that I can’t imagine having the kind of concerns you do.
So for me, letter dating is the only choice.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
Lately, I’ve mainly been offering letter dates.
Since it’s the woman who decides whether to accept a letter date, I don’t think there’s any need to feel awkward about it.
In the end, what matters is whether she thinks you’re stingy when you actually go on a date.
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I’m in my sixties and still trying to find my way.
If you can’t convey your feelings through writing, it might be best to refrain from participating…
For those of us who enjoy letter dating, seeing one negative opinion after another is a bit discouraging (^◇^;)
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I’ll answer as Maezawa from the president’s office as well.
> I’m hesitating to make an offer because I’m worried it might give her a bad impression.
In that case, why not just make a regular offer?
Why choose not to?
Is it because you don’t want to spend the setting fee?
If so, then even if women see you that way, I’d say that impression is probably accurate.
If that’s not the reason, then when the woman first contacts you through a letter date, you could send her half of the usual setting fee in the form of an Amazon gift card or something similar.
I don’t think any woman would call you cheap if you went that far.
I think letter dates are meant for situations where, completely separate from the setting fee, you want to exchange messages like pen pals first, because you feel you’ll be able to hit it off more easily when you finally meet.
Still, none of this would have happened in the first place if the setting fee hadn’t been reduced by half. Why was it cut in half...?
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I’m Osaka, a male member.
Lol.
Honestly, I don’t think the questioner’s perspective is necessarily off. If anything, I feel like communicating through email, LINE, and so on is actually a higher hurdle. What do you think?
The more back-and-forth there is, the more turned off you might become, right?
That’s what concerns me more, so I’ve never used it. Well, there was one exception, lol.
And if the other person knows from the start that the offer is only half the usual amount, it feels like you’re starting even further in the negative.
If you have the strategy or writing skills to overcome all that, then great. But ultimately, the real deal is getting the chance to meet and talk in person, so even if you become a handsome man or beautiful woman in writing, wouldn’t the outcome be the same? Lol. Just my opinion, though.
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