I'm a female member. He didn't ask for my contact information on our date.
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Dating advice sites say that men will actively pursue women they're interested in, so is it fair to interpret this as an indirect rejection?
I only realized it as we were saying goodbye. I considered asking him myself, but I thought I'd feel absolutely miserable and pathetic if he turned me down, so I decided not to.
Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu here.
Every now and then, we get messages from men saying they forgot to ask a woman for her contact information at the club and wondering if there’s anything they can do.
So I think sometimes it really is just an honest mistake.
With older men, they may also assume it’s fine because they already have the woman’s phone number from calling her when arranging the meeting. (Some people don’t even use LINE.)
I think the method Marika mentioned—sending a text message—is a great idea.
That said, we’ve also had men call us in a panic during their interview, saying they could receive text messages but didn’t know how to send one.
So it may be worth keeping in mind that some men might not be able to use either LINE or text messaging.
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It’s me.
If you definitely want to exchange contact information, it’s probably best to do it when you meet and start introducing yourselves.
You could casually say something like, “I might forget if we leave it until later ♪”
Timing-wise, there’s usually little reason for a man to refuse, and when he’s eager to make a good impression on future dates, I don’t think many men would turn you down.
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I’m a male member, and my username is Kamihikōki.
Even if I have no intention of meeting her again, I feel it would be quite rude not to ask, so I always ask anyway.
I only don’t ask when there’s a really good reason.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
If you discussed the allowance or the terms of the arrangement during the date, he may have simply forgotten to pay it.
If not, it could be an indirect way of turning you down.
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Since you have his phone number, I’d suggest sending a thank-you message by text. If he doesn’t respond positively, it’s probably best to forget about him.
Marika
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Not every man comes on strong with a woman he’s interested in, so he may have deliberately avoided asking. That said, he might genuinely have forgotten to ask.
Speaking from my own experience, I’ve deliberately held back from asking about three times, while there have been roughly twice as many occasions when a woman brought it up herself and made things easier for me.
If a woman had asked me when I was deliberately holding back, I probably would have exchanged contact information with her.
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I’m date◎yume, a male member.
> Is it fair to take this as an indirect rejection?
Since you know her phone number, I wouldn’t necessarily interpret it that way. Still, I think it’s best to take a “don’t chase someone who’s leaving” approach.
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