If you’re choosing a boyfriend, is looks more important than money, but when it comes to marriage, is money more important than looks?

I’m Shingo Lee (Shingori), a male member. For a friends-with-benefits partner, it’s all about looks. For a boyfriend, it’s sincerity. For a marriage partner, it’s the freedom to be yourself. I’ll explain based on the many romantic experiences of a man in his forties, along with research from the University of Minnesota. Women tend to judge people by their looks more than men do. Even sex can feel more pleasurable simply when it’s with a handsome man. So when choosing a friends-with-benefits partner, you’ll probably be more satisfied if you prioritize appearance. However, things are different when it comes to a boyfriend. Women get tired of handsome men after about three months. Things they once overlooked because he was good-looking start to bother them. For a long-term relationship, it’s better to choose someone sincere. A recent trend is for women to want their boyfriends to be “decent” and genuine. This is probably because people have started to value a relationship that lasts and remains close over something that merely looks good on Instagram. And then there’s choosing a marriage partner. In the coming era, people will go through “life shifts,” with their work, hobbies, and social circles changing repeatedly. Unless your partner is open-minded about these major changes, they won’t be able to keep up with the shifts in your life. Personally, I found it truly difficult when a conservative partner who disliked taking on challenges became an obstacle to adapting to an ever-changing environment. That’s all. I sincerely wish you, the questioner, a wonderful life.

I can’t think of a better answer than Kazu’s. I just wanted to add that I think the same applies to women too, so I decided to respond. Marika

I’m Kazu, a male member. I think it depends on what you’re looking for in a boyfriend. If you’re thinking about marriage, whether he’s a boyfriend or a potential spouse, I’d say personality comes first and money second. If you’re not considering marriage but simply want someone you enjoy being with, then personality still comes first. If you’re looking for a boyfriend who’s good in bed, then sex would come first, followed by personality. Looks don’t really factor in anywhere. A handsome boyfriend might be nice to show off when you’re out together, but everyone has different tastes when it comes to appearance. Money can make married life run more smoothly, but I think relying on money alone would become painful pretty quickly.