Gentlemen, do you have any tricks besides the allowance for making sure Type B or Type C female members you’ve approached continue dating you after the first date, or for reliably leading things toward an adult relationship (intimate)? Please share whatever you’re comfortable disclosing.
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I always buy flowers and give them as a gift on the first date. Depending on the woman’s expression and how she reacted when receiving them, there were times when I brought flowers every time we met.
I’ve never had anyone refuse them, but there have been occasions when our terms weren’t settled beforehand, and the flowers I bought and left in the hotel room ended up going to waste...
Universe Tokyo’s Mamiya here.
I’d be very happy to receive flowers! But that doesn’t necessarily mean I’d want to take things to the next level afterward—that’s a separate matter.
I think you’re looking for 1 + 1 = 2, but at some point, you may get a different answer...
Unfortunately, there are probably members who felt uncomfortable receiving flowers as well.
Why not ask her, “Were you happy to receive the flowers, or were they actually not really your taste?”
In fact, if you want to know what she’d like you to do, you should draw those requests out of her—they can offer hints for continuing the arrangement.
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I’m Hikoki, a male member.
At men’s esthetic salons, therapists are trained to react in ways that make customers feel good. There’s one customer who brings a bouquet every time, but the therapist just tosses it in the trash on the way out. The same goes for other gifts—they get thrown away too. He’d probably be better off giving a tip.
A beautiful woman who joined the club told me she often received flowers. She said she didn’t dislike it, but it depended on the person, and she hadn’t heard many positive impressions. Apparently, it’s better to be humble and not flaunt—or even make her feel—the power of money. That’s what helps things continue.
I think it’s important to remember that someone who spends time with you in exchange for money doesn’t need to receive anything other than money—unless it’s something she actually wants.
If you’re thinking about maintaining a good relationship over the long term, it’s better to stay natural and not feel the need to put on airs, as you normally would. Developing the sensitivity to find someone you genuinely click with—not physically, but in terms of feeling comfortable together—will help both you and the woman you’re seeing remain happy for a long time.
I believe it’s important not to miss that natural connection with someone who’s right for you and, in turn, someone for whom you’re the right person.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
Sorry, but I don’t have any special tricks, and I don’t really do anything in particular. On rare occasions, if a business trip happens to line up, I might bring back a souvenir, but that’s just a matter of politeness.
I have no intention of否定ing your perspective at all. The following is simply my personal opinion, so please take it for what it’s worth.
People have different levels of compatibility. I believe that continuing a relationship when the two people aren’t compatible only makes both of them unhappy. No matter how much you like someone, if they’re uncomfortable with you, the relationship shouldn’t continue.
I only give presents after the relationship has continued for a certain amount of time.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
I feel the same way as Kazu. It’s not about earning extra points—if you can avoid losing points, I think it’ll lead to a next meeting.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
There are probably many situations where receiving flowers would actually be inconvenient. For example, if she has plans afterward, people might wonder, “Why is she carrying flowers?” Even if she’s simply going shopping, having extra baggage can be a hassle. If you want to give her a present, I think a small item that won’t get in her way would be better.
My secret strategy is: “Don’t do anything that might become a burden for her.” If she doesn’t find you troublesome, there’s a good chance it will lead to a second date and beyond.
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