If I meet someone wonderful, I think I’d be open to an adult relationship from the first day. Looking at it that way, I wonder if I should switch to Type C, but in reality, I feel that I’d only meet someone I found that wonderful (wonderful enough to be okay with it from the first day) about once or twice out of ten people.
So the chances of having an adult relationship on the first day are quite low.
That said, being Type B doesn’t mean I want to meet someone repeatedly for dinner only (no intimacy) to see if we click. I would only agree to meet someone a second time if I felt I might be open to an adult relationship with him. (Whether that actually happens depends on the other person, of course.)
In this case, since the first meeting will almost always be dinner only, should I stay with Type B? Or, if there’s even a very small chance of an adult relationship on the first day, would that make me Type C? What do you think?
Even as a Type B, I’m sometimes invited from the first day, even if the invitation isn’t pushy. Personally, Type B feels more comfortable because it makes it easier for me to decline on the first day, and I feel that turning someone down is less likely to hurt his feelings. From a man’s perspective, I imagine he’d be happy if he got a yes on the first day from someone registered as Type B.
However, I’m concerned that people may think it’s troublesome that some women agree on the first day despite being Type B, encouraging men to pressure women for an adult relationship from the first day. So I wanted to ask which type would be more appropriate in this situation.
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I agree with Papuwa and Mac.
“An amazing man” means something different to everyone, but my first instinct was that, with this kind of attitude, she seems like she’d be a lot of work...
It’s not as though he has to choose you—he can simply choose someone else from among the other 8,000 women.
I think the chances of being liked by “that kind of man” are low.
Men dislike vague women more than anything. They dislike playing games over the terms with men who pay a high hourly rate even more.
So I’d say A...
However, if it’s A, no offers will come in, so I imagine the staff would say, “With that attitude, you’re a B,”
Which means the result would probably be B....
P.S.
I may have been a little harsh, but women like this tend to attract rather troublesome men. I hope that doesn’t happen to you.
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I’m a BB7 male member.
I think many Type B members are like you. As long as you don’t deceptively string someone along with dinner only (no intimacy), I don’t see a problem.
There are also men who aren’t interested in meeting a woman again after the first dinner-only date, so it goes both ways.
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Like Date◎Yume and the “Lost Sixties” user, I think it’s perfectly fine for you to remain a Type B.
I may be in the minority, but personally, I think Type B women are the real charm of Universe Club. At the same time—which may sound contradictory—I hope more wonderful Type B women like you, who might even be open to getting physical from the very first day, will join.
The Type B woman I recently made an offer to turned out, after talking with her, to have views very much like yours, which made her twice as appealing to me. (Of course, we parted after dinner.) Tomorrow will be our second date, and we’re planning to have lunch at an Italian restaurant. I’ve been fantasizing—while getting rather hot under the collar, haha—about what I would say if she told me, “I want you to hold me tonight.”
I hope you have a wonderful encounter.
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Judging from your question, am I correct in assuming that you haven’t experienced an adult relationship (intimate) yet? I’ll answer on that assumption.
This is similar to Mac’s answer, but I think it’s safest to assume that there are very few attractive men.
On the other hand, there seem to be a fair number of men who may not be much to look at but are financially comfortable and have good personalities.
In fact, a woman who registered as Type B with feelings similar to yours said after leaving the club, “There were some nice people, but none I found particularly attractive. When I was approached about taking things further, I thought about what to do, but in the end I just couldn’t.”
It’s probably best not to have overly convenient expectations. However, if your terms include “not dragging things out unnecessarily after the second meeting,” it doesn’t seem likely to cause too many problems, so Type B may be worth considering.
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Wouldn’t a Type B arrangement be a good fit?
Rather than rushing into the relationship, I think there’s also something to be said for taking your time and enjoying it at a relaxed pace.
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I’m a confused man in my 60s.
If you’ve registered as a Type B, then stick to the principles of being a Type B!
I don’t like half-measures... lol
Even if a woman invited me to spend the rest of the day together on our first meeting, I wouldn’t be able to—I simply haven’t planned my schedule that way. It wouldn’t make me feel pleased.
P.S.
Mr. Mac, is it time for the sniper to make an appearance?... lol
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